Foreplay. Everyone's heard of it. Not everyone's doing it right.

In this episode, Jay-Jay and Mel break down what foreplay actually is (spoiler: not just a quick neck kiss and a rub before getting to the main event), why rushing it is one of the biggest bedroom mistakes people make, and how slowing down can completely change your sex life.

We also get into the surprisingly non-sexual stuff that counts as foreplay, plus: why your body literally needs time to prepare for penetration (there's a physiological process called tenting and it will change how you think about this forever), the art of attunement, why the quickie you think was spontaneous... wasn't, and how to talk to a partner who treats foreplay like they're late for a flight.

In this episode:

• Why foreplay starts way before the bedroom
• The psychological side of arousal, and why safety matters more than technique
• What is tenting and why your body needs it
• Attunement: the real skill underneath all the moves
• How to talk to a partner who skips straight to the jackhammer
• Sexting as foreplay (Mel is a big fan)
• The Pleasure Practice: penetration off the table, entirely

How to Have Sex is a shame-free sex education podcast hosted by broadcaster Jay-Jay Feeney and certified sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes; one nosy, curious host and one expert who actually knows what she's talking about. Every episode tackles the stuff most of us were never taught, minus the awkward classroom diagrams.

This podcast is proudly sponsored by Wild Secrets.

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