Before we talk about relationships with other people, we have to understand the relationship we're having with ourselves.

In this opening episode, I share the experiences that shaped the perspective behind this podcast and why I believe healing isn't just about understanding trauma...it's about rebuilding the relationship with yourself. We explore self-compassion, self-trust, boundaries, over-functioning, and the role they play in every relationship we'll discuss moving forward.

We explore:

• Why the relationship with yourself is the foundation of every other relationship.
• How trauma shapes the way we engage in relationships long after the original experiences.
• Why healing is a relationship of getting back to yourself.
• The role of self-compassion in changing how we see ourselves and our experiences.
• Why the voice in our head isn't always our own.
• How beliefs are created to help us survive.
• What over-functioning looks like in relationships.
• Why doing "more" isn't always the answer.
• The perspective that will guide every conversation on this podcast.

Episode Thoughts to Sit With

The following are direct excerpts from this episode.

"The primary relationship is with yourself."

"One thing that people really don't talk about around trauma is how it is a relationship of getting back to you..."

"If you're only doing your part and nothing goes forward, that's information."

"Even if the problem is them, it's still your work to determine why are you here? Why are you engaging with it?"

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