What do you do when the ghost comes back?

In this episode of Love Sex LA: Unfiltered, Alexandria sits down with dating expert and author Benny Hart to talk about exes, ghosting, second chances, situationships, and the question every girl has asked herself at least once: is this actually worth revisiting, or am I just emotionally bored?

Sometimes a ghost doesn’t fully disappear. Sometimes they’re still watching your Instagram stories, liking posts, orbiting your life, or reappearing months later with a casual “how’ve you been?” And when that happens, it can be hard to tell whether they genuinely miss you, want another chance, or just want access again.

Benny and Alexandria unpack why ghosts come back, what it means when an ex or situationship is still keeping tabs on you, and how to know the difference between real change and someone trying to soft launch their way back into your life.

They also talk about when it’s actually acceptable to get back together with an ex, what red flags and green flags to look for, and why getting back together only works when the reason you broke up no longer exists — not when you’ve just gotten lonely enough to ignore it.

Plus, they play Date or Ghost, breaking down modern dating scenarios like read receipts, exes on Instagram, guy best friends, female roommates, location sharing, waiting until marriage, and the classic ghost who comes back with “I miss your energy.”

This episode is for anyone who has ever been ghosted, haunted by an ex, tempted by a second chance, or stuck wondering whether they miss the person — or just the fantasy.