you know that feeling when you are technically doing the same things… but your body does not feel like your body anymore?

“why do i not feel like myself anymore?”

your sleep is off. your anxiety is at levels you’ve never experienced it…

your brain feels foggy. your waist feels different. your hunger is weird. your training feels harder.

your motivation feels gone. and the most frustrating part is, you cannot tell if you are stressed, slacking off, getting lazier… hormonal, or just losing the plot.

this is the episode i wish more women heard before they spent years blaming themselves.

because for so many women, it is not just a few hot flushes. it is the feeling of not recognising yourself.

i’m joined by amanda thebe, author of menopocalypse, and we talk about perimenopause as the great unsettling. especially when women arent JUST dismissed or given treatments and solutions for the wrong problem…

anxiety… depression… maybe even the pill to “regulate things”

but then theres the constant punches from social media giving you all the things you want to hear but selling false hope, promises that are built from lies…

too many doctors treat symptoms in isolation because this information isnt spread enough… we are doing better. but not good enough.

also, yes… your bloods can be “normal” while you still feel anything but normal, so knowing what to ask for matters.

in here

we talk about brain fog, anxiety, poor sleep, night sweats, belly fat, constipation, joint pain, migraines, urinary symptoms, vaginal dryness, painful sex, itchy skin, fatigue, body composition changes and why symptoms can show up before your period obviously changes.

we also talk about HRT and MHT with nuance. not fear. not worship. nuance. some women may benefit, some women may not be candidates, some women may not want it, but every woman deserves an informed conversation with someone who actually understands menopause. we also cover bioidentical hormones, regulated options, and why “natural” can still be a sales pitch.

mini takeaways from this episode:

1. look for symptom clusters, not one random symptom (its easier to link them together that way)

2. stop asking “what supplement fixes this?” and start asking “what support do i actually need?”

3. strength train to build the body you want to age in, not just to burn calories

4. build your base with strength training, walking, protein, sleep and small wins

If you are keeping active, keeping your mind in check… not trying to solve it with another diet or going harder… your body will stop fighting you back and you can work with it in this hard time

if you want to come on for a chat about your own journey or struggles, message me.

find me @transformxruby on instagram

Amanda: @amanda.thebe

LINKS/RESOURCES

Apply for a free consult: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfqaxMDfbPYPYVui3BgSClnDXTj4BWjRvPkbBHuK5CP7SQsIw/viewform?usp=sf_link

Australasian Menopause Society: https://menopause.org.au

For those in USA/UK - theres a large list here for you: https://amandathebe.com/menopause/

Recommended books:

Menopocalypse by Amanda Thebe: https://www.amazon.com/Menopocalypse-Learned-Thrive-During-Menopause/dp/1771647604/

Menopause Manifesto - Jen Gunter

https://www.amazon.com/Menopause-Manifesto-Health-Facts-Feminism/dp/0806540664/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3TADIBFGIYSI6&dchild=1&keywords=menopause+manifesto&qid=1620254725&sprefix=menopause+man%2Caps%2C200&sr=8-1

Direct link to DM me on IG: https://ig.me/m/transformxruby

i thought i was getting stronger… so why isn’t my body showing it?

if you’ve ever looked at your logbook and thought, “okay, my lifts are going up, i’m training hard, i’m showing up… so why do i still not see the definition, shape, glutes, legs, or body change i want?” this episode is for you.

because progress in training is not just about adding weight or ticking off another workout. and getting stronger does not always mean your program is giving your body the exact signal it needs for body recomposition, muscle growth, or visible physique change.

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If you’re tired of wasting months chasing inconsistent results or feeling frustrated because your workouts don’t add up, this episode is your wake-up call.

here I share my proven framework so you can make EACH SESSION COUNT

we want you AVOIDING burnout so that you can make progress that lasts

i’m breaking down how often you should really change your workouts, why changing your program too soon can keep you stuck, and why the answer is not always a new split, new glute day, new rep range, or another random app program.

we talk about progressive overload, execution, main lifts, accessories, rep ranges, training footage, warm up sets, recovery, glute growth, training in a deficit, and why your body does not care if your workout feels fresh as much as it cares about whether the work is actually progressing.

4 MASSIVE TAKEAWAYS

1. ask: what is the result you actually want?

2. don’t just look at the load increasing or the reps increasing

3. slower progress doesn’t mean that something isn’t working

4. remember: performance drives physique. your goal is muscle

if this episode makes you rethink how you’re training, send it to someone who keeps changing workouts and wondering why nothing is changing. rate the podcast, leave a review, and message me what clicked for you.

if you are serious about transforming your body

you want to gain empowerment and education through living the experience of what real results FEEL and LOOK like…

so you FINALLLY stop getting confused in the traps of quick-fix gimmicks and marketing slogans

This episode will change the way you think about training, progress, and long-term results.

Tune in and don’t forget to follow on for me – reach out with your questions – and dm me if you want a more personal connection – to take YOUR journey to a whole new level 😊

we want a journey that EXCELS AND ENDURES.. one that feels good and fits into what matters most to you ion live…

that’s what makes your goals inevitable — because real change requires consistency, not constantly switching things up. andwe need the ladder stacked against the RIGHT wall to start with 😉

bc I DO get it - it’s so easy to think youre doing the right things in the gym and know when things stop working….

I used to think it was obvious anyway…

until I started having deeper conversations with women more recently

and no joke – theres more BS out there than ever before, so its easy to get confused in it all.

the right things ARE the right things… but based on the wrong circles of information… or even the right info to some degree… just not applied to you, where you are right now….

and this? its costing you more than just strength, muscle, and definition.

The confidence and belief in yourself… fades –with each struggle

IT WILL MEAN THE WORLD TO ME if you

IT WILL MEAN THE WORLD TO ME if you

• send it to someone
• rate the podcast five stars
• give feedback
• message me on IG!! I love love connecting on a deeper level with you all

find me @transformxrubyon instagram

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PS; performance drives physique. your goal ismuscle

Heavy weights are not magic… And higher reps CAN feel productive

BOTH can leave you stuck if you’re missing the part that really matters in your training…

In this episode, I’m breaking down one of the most overcomplicated topics in women’s fitness right now… lighter weights vs heavier weights, higher reps vs lower reps, the “best” number of sets, and the “perfect” workout split for women over 35. And honestly, this is exactly where so many women get pulled off course.i don't blame you with all the conflicting advice online. Lift heavier. Lift lighter. Do 3 x 8. Do 15 reps. Train more. Rest more. Full body. Upper lower. Push pull legs. No wonder your head’s fried.

this is the best place to start if you’re over 35, training hard, and still feeling confused by all the noise around heavier weights, higher reps, and the “best” workout split.

Because what feels effective is not always what changes your body.

This is also a bigger conversation about body recomposition, because so many women are chasing numbers, feelings, and workout styles instead of learning how to create truly effective work in the gym.

In this episode, I strip it right back.

A set that burns is not automatically a better set. A workout that leaves you wrecked is not automatically a muscle building workout. And lifting heavier is not some magic fix either if you do not understand how to brace, control the movement, challenge the target muscle, and actually progress what you’re doing.

I’m walking you through why higher reps can feel more productive but often make it harder to judge true effort, why more sets and more days are not automatically better, how to think about workout splits based on your actual life and recovery, and why body recomposition rewards honesty, method, and patience more than chaos and guesswork.

so….what actually matters when it comes to building muscle, changing your shape, and getting better body composition after 35? I unpack the truth about rep ranges, why higher reps often feel more effective than they really are, why heavy lifting is not the answer on its own, how sets only matter if the work inside them is real, and why your split should fit your recovery and your real life… not your fantasy self.

3 mini wins to take from this episode:

1. How to properly judge your sets + reps

2. You can put together a weekly structure that works for you - Cos we need to Stop asking what split is “best” and ask what setup lets me train well enough, often enough, and recover well enough to actually improve.

3. Film one main lift this week and ask, did that set actually challenge me, or did it just feel hard?

If you know another woman who is doing all the things and still feels like her body is not changing the way she hoped, share this episode with her. And if this podcast helps you, a five star rating genuinely helps me get it in front of more women without selling my soul to ads.

Anyone who wants to come on for a chat about their own journey or struggles, message me. I’d love that.

find me @transformxruby on instagram

Apply for a free consult: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfqaxMDfbPYPYVui3BgSClnDXTj4BWjRvPkbBHuK5CP7SQsIw/viewform?usp=sf_link Direct link to DM me on IG:https://ig.me/m/transformxruby