Let's be honest, avoidance rarely looks like hiding under the covers. Most of the time it looks like staying busy, saying "I'm not ready yet," keeping your distance in relationships, not having the conversation, and never quite letting yourself explore what else might be possible for your life. And here's the thing nobody says out loud: avoidance isn't the opposite of settling. It is settling. Just with more sophisticated excuses.

In this episode, we're getting into all of it: what avoidance actually is, how it shows up in your relationships, creative work, community, and daily life, and why the cost of staying frozen is so much higher than we want to admit. We're also talking about what it means to live a purposeful life and why you genuinely cannot afford to let fear be in charge of how you use your time and your gifts.

In this episode:

• What avoidance actually is — and why it's not laziness or weakness
• How fear keeps you frozen and what that really looks like in everyday life
• Why avoidance of conversations, community, and new possibilities is avoidance of hope
• How avoidance quietly becomes settling — and what that's costing you
• Why you have one life and your gifts were never just for you
• The difference between courage and confidence (and why you don't need to feel ready)
• What your nervous system needs before you can take the next step
• Six things to consider as you start moving toward the scary thing — one small step at a time

You don't need a big breakthrough. You don't need to feel ready. You just need to be willing. This episode is going to feel like a diary entry — and that's completely on purpose.

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What if the most powerful thing you could do when fear shows up… is just get curious?

In this episode, we're trading "what if it goes wrong" for "I wonder what this will teach me" — and exploring why that shift is so much harder than it sounds. Curiosity isn't toxic positivity. It's a deliberate, nervous-system-level practice that can change the way you move through fear, relationships, creative work, and healing.

We're getting into:

• Why fear closes us down and curiosity opens us up — and what that actually looks like in your daily life
• How shame — especially around sexuality and desire — shuts curiosity down at the root
• The body-based difference between anxiety and curiosity (polyvagal theory, but make it relatable)
• How to shift from what if to I wonder in real time
• The connection between curiosity and self-compassion — including insights from Dr. Thema Bryant's Homecoming
• What it means to get curious about yourself after religious trauma or spiritual deconstruction

This one is going to feel like your journal entry come to life, bestie. Settle in.

Adjusting is a podcast for creatives, everyday people, and those healing from trauma and relationships who are learning to live with less fear and more freedom.

Season 3, Part 2 Series: From Fear to Freedom — What If It All Works Out?

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Most of us aren't just afraid of bad things happening, we're afraid of not knowing. In this episode we explore what it actually means to live in the grey, why certainty feels so necessary and what it costs us when we demand it, and how black and white thinking keeps us stuck in our relationships, our creative work, and our healing journey.

We talk about how to expand your tolerance for uncertainty, what the body does when ambiguity feels like a threat, the connection between trust and the unknown, and the spiritual roots of certainty-seeking including what faith actually says about living without all the answers. Plus five things to consider as you start making peace with the in-between.

If you've been waiting for everything to feel certain before you move forward, this episode is going to meet you right where you are.

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How do you know when your anxiety is lying to you and when your gut is actually telling you the truth? In this episode we kick off the second phase of Season 3 with the series, From Fear to Freedom: What If It All Works Out?. We begin by exploring one of the most important distinctions in your healing journey: the difference between fear and intuition.

We talk about what it means to live from scarcity vs abundance, why so many of us learned fear-based thinking as children, how fear and intuition feel different in the body, and the spiritual roots of fear-based living including what scripture says about abundance and overflow. Plus five things to consider as you start making decisions from freedom instead of fear.

If you've been waiting for the part where the healing actually starts to feel like freedom, WHOOP there it is!

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We're closing out the season with the one that started it all — the quiet rulebook most of us have been living by without realizing it. Should/Must Statements are the cognitive distortion underneath almost every other pattern we've covered this season, and today we're getting into all of it: why getting back to a routine after a gap feels so hard, the guilt spiral that follows every canceled plan, how hustle culture weaponizes your own standards against you, and why boundaries feel impossible when your whole mindset is built around "I must." If you've been trying to rebuild — your health, your business, your sense of self — this one is for you. We're addressing where this pattern lives, adjusting with actual grace (not the platitude version), and applying real tools you can use starting today.

Topics covered: cognitive distortions, Should/Must Statements, rebuilding routines, entrepreneur burnout, guilt and shame cycles, boundaries, unspoken expectations, healing with grace.

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Have you ever walked into a room and immediately decided something was off — and that you were the reason? That is personalization. It is one of the quietest cognitive distortions there is, and one of the most exhausting — because it puts you at the center of things you were never actually responsible for. In this episode, we are breaking down what personalization really is, where it comes from, how it shows up in your friendships, your creative work, your faith, and your sense of self — and what it actually looks like to start putting it down. We also get into code switching, sexual shame, deconstruction, and what it means to flip the script — from making yourself the reason everything goes wrong, to owning the gifts and purpose that are uniquely yours.

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Have you ever convinced yourself something was wrong — with a friendship, your work, your worth — not because of anything that actually happened, but because it just felt that way? That's emotional reasoning, and it might be the sneakiest cognitive distortion of them all. In this episode, we're breaking down why your brain treats feelings like facts, where that pattern started, and what it's quietly costing you.

We talk about how emotional reasoning shows up in your creative work, your relationships, your faith life, and your daily goals — and why it's so hard to catch in the moment. We also dig into the deep connection between emotional reasoning, shame, imposter syndrome, and childhood experiences that taught you to trust the feeling over the evidence.

This episode covers:

• What emotional reasoning is and how CBT defines it
• How it shows up differently in friendships, creative spaces, healing journeys, and goal setting
• The trauma and anxiety connection — and why this is a nervous system pattern, not a character flaw
• Why imposter syndrome is emotional reasoning with credentials
• The shame and self-worth layer that keeps this pattern in place
• Five practical tools to start separating feelings from facts
• What to do when the tools don't reach in the moment
• Reflection questions to help you identify where this pattern lives in your life

If you've ever let a feeling write a story your life didn't actually confirm — this one's for you.

Keywords/Tags: emotional reasoning, cognitive distortion, CBT, mental health podcast, anxiety and trauma, imposter syndrome, shame and self-worth, healing journey, cognitive behavioral therapy, emotional intelligence, mental wellness, faith and mental health, creative burnout, self-worth, inner critic, nervous system healing, therapy tools, personal growth podcast, mental health for creatives, overgeneralization

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Have you ever had one hard week and convinced yourself it was proof of a permanent pattern? That's overgeneralization and it might be the most quietly devastating thought distortion you've never heard named. In this episode, we're breaking down exactly how overgeneralization works, where it started (hint: usually not in adulthood), and why so many high-achieving, deeply self-aware people are living with something called achievement dysmorphia: the inability to accurately see or internalize what they've actually built, even when the evidence is right in front of them.

We cover how this pattern shows up in your creative work, your friendships, your faith journey, and your goals and we go deep on the childhood roots, the anxiety and trauma connection, and the inner critic that's been running the "always" and "never" narrative for way too long. Plus, five real tools you can use this week to start interrupting the pattern and finally let your wins actually count.

If you've ever said "I never follow through," "people always leave," or "I'm just not someone who does hard things", this episode is for you.

Topics covered: overgeneralization, achievement dysmorphia, cognitive distortions, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), inner critic, childhood trauma, anxiety, depression, imposter syndrome, self-worth, healing, faith deconstruction, creative confidence, mental health for creatives

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