A convo about control turned into a revelation that nothing has been the same since Noble. Even 6 years later. Tune in as Mikey and Randie reveal what has changed about them for better or for worse since their son died. Because grief. Because this is real life. Because earth is hell or ghetto or whatever Jesus said.

Later, the Chapmans discuss what their convo has taught them about one another, and to cleanse the palate Randie brings a fight or flight about how Mikey is always instigating between her and Drew.

Still it’s all love, when they show each other some QUICK PDA because the Knicks won and they found out at the end of their recording. Putting D’Angelo’s lyrics in “Nothing Even Matters” to the test.

As always Randie and Mikey love y’all and appreciate your continued support through the years!

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(After Model Home by Rivers Solomon and Bless the Daughter Raised by a Voice in her Head by Warsan Shire)

Hey y’all,

While Mike was in Guyana for the first time since 2001, Randie’s feelings caught up to her. Tune in as she reveals the real about going No Contact with her family. Brought on by a convo with Drew and the propaganda about No Contact being, “trendy” Randie tells you the truth.

No Contact is the bottom. The last resort. Because in the words of Warsan Shire, “No one would leave home unless home chased you.”

Who would self-orphan themselves for shits and giggles? Not Ran. Not many people, actually. While one of the best decision she’s made for herself, No Contact has left Randie achy and on many days full of grief.

So, in this Indie, the shorter half of the BMM podcast invites you to learn what sovereignty of self and freedom has cost and required of her and other Adult Children making the hard decisions to live a life of integrity and courage.

Items Mentioned:

Model Home by Rivers Solomon, https://bookshop.org/p/books/model-home-a-novel-rivers-solomon/daba1ac77f597af3?ean=9781250397591&next=t

Bless the Daughter Raised by a Voice in Her Head by Warsan Shire, https://bookshop.org/p/books/bless-the-daughter-raised-by-a-voice-in-her-head-poems-warsan-shire/e25042b1966c5b0c?ean=9780593134351&next=t

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Other Resources:

Out of the Fog website: https://outofthefog.website/

Going No Contact with Parents, A Trauma-Informed Choice (Article), https://www.livewellwithsharonmartin.com/going-no-contact-with-parents-a-trauma-informed-perspective/

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents (book), by Lindsay C. Gibson, https://bookshop.org/p/books/adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents-how-to-heal-from-distant-rejecting-or-self-involved-parents-psy-d-lindsay-c-gibson-psyd/c76b830ed14fe568?ean=9781626251700&next=t

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Hey y’all!

Tune in for what is probably the most unhinged (and most fun) episode ever recorded on the BMM podcast because this one is featuring Drewbie Drew.

Similar to the Chapman’s relationship check-ins, Mikey and Randie interview Drew and ask her to rate them with: thumbs up, middle, or thumbs down on safety, fun, communication, love/connection, and baby Rey.

The episode takes many turns (LOL) as the couple discover what Drew really thinks of their parenting and shenanigans.

In all, interviewing 7 year olds ain’t for the weak! Still, it’s a lot of fun and they hope you ask the kids in your life these questions and they hope you enjoy.

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In the beginning of January, the Chapmans spent some time in the ER with baby Rey. Tune in to hear the piece Randie wrote about the experience. Shout out to the fellow mother and friend who didn’t even realize she was encouraging Randie to spread this post a little further. And thank God for the babies that change us.

Items Mentioned:

**Selah: Hebrew. Thought to mean, “pause, reflect, and praise.” Found mainly in the Book of Psalms as a musical interlude or pause. Scholars disagree on its exact definition, and that’s okay. Here’s a piece I found about it: https://learn.ligonier.org/articles/what-selah-means-in-the-bible

Tweet mentioned: https://x.com/MindBodyBronx/status/2007474578851766649?s=20 - @ Bronxology

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Tin! Ten! 10 YEARS! In the books. Somebody clap!

In this episode Mikey and Randie talk about their 10 year anniversary, their first time at a super fancy restaurant, the gifts, their takeaways, and how they’re ready to go reallll slow now LOL. It was a fun and delirious conversation they can’t wait to share with you.

Later, Mike brings a fight or flight that (plot twist, Randie won) even though the Mrs. realized he did in fact have a point.

And as always it’s all love as the couple indulge in a little PDA and even play their first voicemail since being back!

Listen now. They hope you enjoy!

Items Mentioned:

Listen to the song written and performed by LOVE LAURXN and produced by Randie: Stayed the Course, https://www.songfinch.com/stories/e9e002b7-f260-40b9-b77f-63ebb7372461?utm_campaign=video&utm_content=Song+Deliver&utm_medium=sharing&utm_source=songpage&utm_id=product

The Modern, Atlanta’s Boutique Space for Creators and Celebrators: https://www.themodernatl.com/?utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQMMjU2MjgxMDQwNTU4AAGnC9kpGcg6EtyQEaKFUpYiXjhP8ueHCo_Lx6st7nsPj6zNzpSzwSuLabjHtck_aem_96B8DBGkvcaP3UvVJ_fiJQ

GYPSY KITCHEN, https://www.gk-atl.com/

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It’s Mikey’s first Indie back in over a year and he’s here with a dedication.

Inspired by his God daughter’s ceremony, Mikey pins a letter to Drew and Rey about what it means to be dedicated to them.

Later he gives a head nod to the dad’s and husbands out there doing their best. And he reminds them to not martyr themselves as they devote themselves to their family.

To end, Mikey shares that he’ll be talking about his 10-year anniversary soon with the shorter half of the podcast, but in the meantime between time: he wants you to listen to the song Randie had created for him.

He hopes you enjoy.

Items Mentioned:

Listen to the song written and performed by LOVE LAURXN and produced by Randie: Stayed the Course, https://www.songfinch.com/stories/e9e002b7-f260-40b9-b77f-63ebb7372461?utm_campaign=video&utm_content=Song+Deliver&utm_medium=sharing&utm_source=songpage&utm_id=product

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The Chapmans done went and had another baby on y’all.

Tune in and learn all about their youngest daughter, Rey. Together Mikey and Randie reveal what helped them realize they were ready to try for another baby, what it’s like having another baby after experiencing infant loss, how Drewbie is soaring at being a big sister, and more.

Later, Randie brings a fight or flight prompted by a tweet and it gets a little…heated? Tender? You be the judge! And read the tweet: https://x.com/W_Asherah/status/1536052863658561538?s=20

Still, as always it’s all love when the couple show each other some PDA.

Listen now. They hope you enjoy!

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The novel Open Water by Caleb Azumah Nelson shifted something in Randie’s cells. Shortly after finishing the small but mighty book, Randie auto wrote for 20 minutes about the impact the characters left on her. She only lifted her hands to turn the pages.

This indie is the result. She hopes you enjoy.

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