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Most women are burnt out trying to do it all—career, family, self—and somehow still feel like they’re failing at every turn. So we have to ask… is “having it all” actually real, or is it the biggest lie we’ve been sold?

In this episode of Mic’d and Medicated, we sit down (again) with Flavia Masson—screenwriter, artist, and a married woman who chose not to have children—to rip apart the pressure women face to be everything to everyone.

Because no matter what you choose, it somehow feels like you lose:
Married, no career = not successful
Career, no kids = not successful
Career + kids = bad mom
Single with a big career = still judged

So what exactly are we all chasing?

We get into the rise of the “trad wife” movement (yes, the sourdough, barefoot-in-the-kitchen fantasy), and why more women are opting out of the chaos of trying to do it all—and instead choosing to do one thing really well.

Flavia says it best: life isn’t a buffet, it’s a fixed menu. If you pick the fish, you’re not getting the chicken. And maybe the real problem is we’ve been told we should want both.

We talk about:

• Why “having it all” might actually mean doing everything halfway
• The societal pressure and judgment women face no matter what they choose
• How women became their own harshest critics
• The mental load, burnout, and unrealistic expectations of modern life
• Why clarity on your priorities matters more than chasing perfection
• How to actually build a life that feels good (not just looks good)

Whether you’re a mom, a career woman, questioning everything, or just exhausted from trying to juggle 10 balls at once, this episode will make you feel seen, validated, and a lot less alone.

Because maybe the goal isn’t to have it all…maybe it’s to choose what actually matters—and own it.

REFERENCES

• Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg: https://leanin.org/book
• “Why Women Still Can’t Have It All” – The Atlantic: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2012/07/why-women-still-cant-have-it-all/309020/
• “Can We All Have It All?” by Anne-Marie Slaughter: https://www.ted.com/talks/anne_marie_slaughter_can_we_all_have_it_all

We’re two New York City women talking candidly about the chaos of modern life, from relationships, parenting, working in and out of the home, to what it takes to stay semi-sane in a world that expects you to hold it all together and be #blessed.

We couldn’t find an honest and vulnerable conversation — so we started one! If you need a laugh, a cry, or just want to hear someone else admit their flaws and validate your crazy, you’re in the right place. Be ready to be… Unfiltered, Unafraid, and UnExpert.

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