If you’ve ever felt like your life is on pause until someone finally chooses you, notices you, or says “yes” to your plans… this episode is for you.

In this week’s episode of I Mean This In The Nicest Way Possible, RAM makes a heartfelt case for one of the most underrated forms of self-care: choosing yourself. Not as an aesthetic, not as a buzzword, but as a daily act of inner loyalty that changes how you move through every relationship, decision, and season of your life.

You’ll hear about:
• Why your intuition isn’t drama or “overthinking” — it’s information
• How self-abandonment starts as survival training and turns into adult people-pleasing
• The real difference between being selfish and simply honoring your own needs
• How waiting for other people to be ready quietly shrinks your experiences, opportunities, and joy
• Why resentment is often a sign that you’ve been putting everyone else’s comfort above your own
• How boundaries protect your nervous system, not punish other people

From there, RAM gets personal about the quiet turning points that taught him to stop waiting for permission. From learning to love solo dinners and solo travel, to trusting his gut even when nobody else understood it yet, he shares how choosing himself transformed his relationships, his peace, and his sense of worth.

You’ll also learn:
• The questions he asks himself when old people-pleasing habits try to creep back in
• How to spot the tiny moments where you’re abandoning yourself without realizing it
• Why attachment patterns, codependency, and minimized childhood needs make self-loyalty feel “selfish” (and why they’re wrong)
• How therapists frame intuition, boundaries, and emotional safety as essential — not optional
• The You Do You, Boo Challenge: one intentional decision this week where you stop waiting for someone else and pick yourself instead

This isn’t about becoming cold, hyper-independent, or unavailable. It’s about becoming someone you can trust with your own life — a person who doesn’t collapse their needs to keep the peace, and who understands that real connection is only possible when you stop abandoning yourself.

If you’ve got 20 minutes, RAM means this in the nicest way possible: choose yourself.