Episode 31: From Assumption to Agreement: How We Build Something Different (Part II)

Last week, Lindsay shared what she learned from more than 40 Asian American women during a burnout workshop. The women weren't simply asking how to recover from burnout - they were questioning the assumptions that had quietly shaped their lives for years.

In Part II, Lindsay explores what comes next.

How do we build something different without abandoning the people we love?

Drawing on a powerful conversation with Corie Chu about micro-boundaries, Lindsay argues that the goal isn't to care less - it's to create relationships where responsibilities are discussed instead of assumed. Through stories from her own marriage and reflections from the burnout workshop, she explores howhealthy families, partnerships, and workplaces evolve through conversation rather than inherited expectations.

This episode is an invitation to rethink how responsibility getsdistributed, why so many women become the default responsible one, and what it looks like to reclaim authorship over your own time, energy, and life.

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Episode Overview:

A few weeks ago, Lindsay facilitated a burnout workshopfor more than 40 Asian American women through the Asian American Mental Health Project. She arrived prepared to discuss stress, recovery, boundaries, and the lessons she learned from her own experience with burnout.

Instead, she left thinking about something entirely different.

What surprised her wasn't that the women were tired. Itwas that they were ready for change. They were questioning responsibilities they had carried for years - sometimes decades - and asking whether the roles, expectations, and obligations they had inherited were still working for them.

In this solo episode, Lindsay reflects on the threebiggest insights she took away from that workshop. Together, these women explored what it means to be the default responsible one, how many women disappear from their own decision-making, and why openly talking about these experiences can be such a powerful catalyst for change.

Beneath the burnout, Lindsay found something unexpected: anger, grief, hope, and a growing willingness among women to imagine a different way forward.

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Episode Overview:

The future our children will inherit looks dramatically different from the one we were prepared for.

For many Asian American families, the roadmap was clear: work hard, get good grades, go to college, find a stable career, and build a secure life. But in a world increasingly shaped by artificial intelligence, rapid technological change, and evolving career pathways, that traditional formula no longer feelscertain.

In this episode of Courage Class, Lindsay sits down with Dr. Christopher Hoang, Interim Director of Technology Services at the Los Angeles County Office of Education, where he helps support more than 80 school districts and nearly 2million students across Los Angeles County.

Together, they explore one of the most pressing questions facing parents today: How do we raise children for a future we can't predict?

Drawing from his unique perspective as an educator, technology leader, and father, Dr. Hoang shares practical insights on parenting in the age of AI, helping children develop critical thinking and creativity, navigating uncertainty, and whycommunication may be the most important skill families can cultivate moving forward.

This conversation goes far beyond technology. It challenges deeply held assumptions about success, achievement, authority, perfectionism, and the ways many Asian American families were raised. Dr. Hoang encourages parents to move away from control and certainty and toward curiosity, flexibility, and meaningful conversation.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why the traditional "go to college, get a good job" pathway may no longer be enough

• Why adaptability, curiosity, creativity, and communication may matter more than traditional definitions of success.

• How to navigate AI as a parent and educator from fostering critical thinking and responsible technology use to understanding the questions every parent should be asking their child's school.

• Why AANHPIs may need a new parenting playbook - one that moves beyond perfectionism, unquestioned authority, and achievement-driven expectations toward conversation, connection, and resilience.

About Dr. Christopher Hoang

Dr. Christopher Hoang serves as the Interim Director of Technology Services at the Los Angeles County Office of Education, supporting technology initiatives across more than 80 school districts serving nearly 2 million students.

A former classroom teacher and educational leader, Dr. Hoang works at the intersection of education, innovation, and technology implementation. His work focuses on helping schools thoughtfully navigate emerging technologies, including artificial intelligence, while keeping students' needs at the center of decision-making.

As both an educator and parent, he brings a practical and compassionate perspective to conversations about learning, technology, and preparing children for an increasingly complex future.

Connect with Dr. Hoang:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christopher-hoang/

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