No names were used in this episode… but if you feel exposed, that’s between you and God.

This week we’re talking breakups—the heartbreak, the healing, and the absolutely unhinged things people do after it ends.

Why do we stay too long? Why do red flags start looking normal when we love someone? Why are we checking their socials while saying we’re “so at peace”?

We get into blocking, stalking, breakup playlists, journaling their worst traits, and pretending a haircut fixed everything.

Ash shares a deeply personal story about a proposal ending by text and how it changed the course of her future. Chess talks about being the one who has to walk away, even when love is still there, and finding closure without needing it from them.

We also unpack the truth that sometimes people don’t leave because they stopped loving you… they leave because they got tired of asking for what should’ve come naturally.

And yes, we end with a rapid-fire breakup game that tells you way too much about us.

If you’re healing, hurting, nosy, or one breakup away from cutting bangs… pull up a chair, because you always have a seat at our table.

Love,

Ash & Chess

Are we chasing success… or just surviving exhaustion with cute coffee cups and packed calendars? ☕️ 🗓️

In this episode, we’re diving into the battle between hustle culture and the soft life. From glorifying being “booked and busy” to romanticizing rest, boundaries, peace, and slower living — we’re unpacking what these lifestyles actually look like in real life.

We talk about which lifestyle we naturally lean toward, the pros and cons of both, and whether it’s truly possible to balance ambition with peace without completely burning yourself out.
Can you build the life you want without constantly being in survival mode? Or does the “soft life” only work if your bills are already paid?

This conversation gets honest, relatable, and probably a little too real. If you’ve ever felt guilty for resting, addicted to productivity, or stuck between wanting success and wanting peace… this episode is for you.

As always, join our table- there is a seat for you! 🪑

-Ash & Chess 💛💛

Modern dating? A full-blown dumpster fire with cute profile pictures. In this episode, we’re diving into the chaos of today’s dating world—situationships, mixed signals, dating fatigue, lack of effort, and why so many people are showing up half-healed and half-honest.

We talk about how dating can trigger insecurities, make even confident people jaded, and leave everyone wondering… what happened to old-school love?

But this one isn’t just roasting the mess. We’re talking healing between relationships, dating with intention, knowing what you bring to the table, and learning from every experience instead of calling it another failure.

We get into soft girl energy, independence, effort, honesty, social media’s grip on relationships, and why both men and women are feeling exhausted out here.

Because maybe dating isn’t dead… maybe it just needs people willing to show up whole. So whether you’re healing, hopeful, over it, or somewhere in between—pull up a chair and join us, because you always have a seat at our table.

Love , Ash and Chess

This Mother’s Day episode goes beyond flowers and brunch, diving into the real, layered emotions behind the day. We talk about redefining what it means to celebrate, honoring the women who’ve shaped us in all kinds of ways, and holding space for those navigating infertility, loss, or complicated journeys with motherhood. It’s raw, honest, and full of perspective—because Mother’s Day isn’t one-size-fits-all, and no one should feel unseen in it. 💛

Love, Ash & Chess

In this short and chaotic episode, we’re sharing the sayings we were raised on in our small-town lives. The ones we thought everyone said… until we moved to the city and realized real quick that was not the case.

No shame here though, we love these phrases. They built us, raised us, and honestly… we’re still saying a few of them to this day and at this point, we’re not stopping now

So whether you grew up the same way or you’re just here trying to figure out what in the world we’re talking about… remember, you always have a seat at our table!

Love,

Ash & Chess

This week on Did She Just Say That? we’re diving into the icks that haunt us and the listener confessions that had us clutching pearls we don’t even own.

We’re talking the tiny turn-offs that instantly dry the vibe, the behaviors that make us reconsider humanity, and the confessions so spicy we had to double-check they were legal… or at least morally flexible. 🔥

It’s messy. It’s juicy. It’s a little scandalous.

And yes — you will absolutely judge someone. Maybe even yourself.

Come for the chaos, stay for the “oh PLEASE tell me they didn’t do that.”

You will definitely want to pull your chair up for this one and join our table!

Love, Ash & Chess

If you’ve ever looked around and thought “make it make sense”… this one’s for you.

This week we’re diving headfirst into the social norms, trends, and unspoken rules that just aren’t adding up anymore. From over-the-top gender reveals and kids’ birthday parties, to fashion trends that might look good on your friend but absolutely not on you.

We get into the exhausting “who texts who” dating games, why we should all just say what we want and want what we say, and how people out here are treating red flags like cute little personality traits

Also on the list:

– Vague prayer requests (be specific… or admit you’re a little nosy like us)

– Posting every life update online

– Speakerphone in public… especially in the bathroom?? Jail. Immediately.

Then we switch it up and get honest about the things we want but don’t always say out loud, what our “type” really is, what a good date actually looks like, and the little differences between us (think: gray sweats & backwards hat vs wrangler jeans & boots).

It’s real, it’s fun, and it’s giving “we said what we said.”

Love,

Ash & Chess

From the impulse decisions that humbled us, to the personal “never again” rules we now live by, we’re unpacking the moments that made us wiser, sassier, and just a tiny bit feral.

Consider this your backstage pass to the unfiltered stories, questionable logic, rogue confidence, and brand-new life rules we crafted in the aftermath.

It’s messy. It’s honest. It’s hilariously relatable.

And yes—there will be at least one moment where you’ll think, oh no… I’ve done that too.

We are sharing our “0/10 - would not recommend” moments! 🙃

Go ahead- pull up your chair. You always have a seat at our table!

Love, Ash & Chess