What do we eat around death? What has food meant at funerals in the past? And why does something as small as a biscuit carry so much emotional and symbolic weight?

In this episode of A Curious Appetite, I’m joined by death historian Dr Dan O’Brien to explore funerary food, mourning rituals, and the deeply human ways food helps us navigate loss. Dan’s research focuses on the undertaking trade in eighteenth century England, and together we uncover how food has shaped grief, memory, and remembrance.

We discuss the fragile afterlife of the funeral biscuit wrapper, a small piece of paper that outlives the food it once held. Funeral biscuits themselves were more than simple refreshments. They were portable, symbolic, and quietly powerful, creating a tangible connection between the dead and the living.

We also explore:

• The ritual role of food and drink at funerals
• Black sealing wax and the symbolism of opening and closing
• Women’s often overlooked role in funerary hospitality
• Mulled wine, alcohol, and the balance between mourning and release
• Hymn texts, memory, and echoes of the Eucharist

At the heart of the episode is a simple but profound idea: food becomes a carrier of memory. It moves between bodies, between people, and between the living and the dead.

And, in true A Curious Appetite fashion, the conversation takes an unexpected turn. Dan reveals his favourite childhood food and let’s just say, it might surprise you.

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Artwork by @medusazzz
Audio by @thedeliciouslegacy
Music by @manu_pino_1111

Useful links:

Misson, Henri. Memoirs and Observations in His Travels over England. Internet Archive. https://archive.org/details/mmissonsmemoirs00ozelgoog

Pitt Rivers Museum. “English Funeral Food.” University of Oxford. https://england.prm.ox.ac.uk/englishness-funeral-food.html

Wesley, Charles. “Worthington.” https://www.iment.com/maida/familytree/henry/music/p45.htm