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Have you ever felt like you're just "too sensitive for work" and experienced frequent burnout? This episode, featuring a leading expert on highly sensitive person and their careers, helps you identify if your job is quietly damaging your nervous system. Learn what steps to take next to address career misalignment and improve your overall work life balance, and how to deal with burnout.

⏱️ Chapters

00:00 Why HSPs keep burning out at work
02:30 The biggest mistake sensitive people make with careers
05:17 What a highly sensitive nervous system is really like
07:33 Early warning signs your job is draining you
10:16 Why boredom can be just as exhausting as overwhelm
12:07 A simple “system check” for your energy this week
14:22 How to tell if your work actually fits you
19:10 Why HSPs change careers more often
22:32 Can boredom actually be a good thing?
24:06 High Sensation Seeking HSPs (and why you get restless)
25:54 What a good career fit feels like vs. a bad one
28:10 Why meaning and autonomy matter so much
29:29 Signs your job is quietly draining your nervous system
30:59 Key questions to ask if something feels “off”
34:39 Why things stop working in your 30s & 40s
40:48 Why women think they are the problem
44:06 Burnout vs. misalignment (crucial difference)
47:11 Stop pushing through: working with your sensitivity
49:28 Small changes that make a big difference
51:40 What to say to your boss (realistic scripts)
54:49 How to say no without guilt
56:30 Talking to your partner about needing change
59:45 Sensitive men & work (what’s different)
01:03:30 If you’re at rock bottom — what to remember

🔗 Resources

• 📘 Thrive: The Highly Sensitive Person and Career – Dr. Tracy Cooper
https://drtracycooper.org/

• ▶️ Watch my earlier video on HSP careers
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tRiyceSlUgY

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