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Hi, I’m John-Paul, and a warm welcome back to the channel. Today’s conversation is an important and often emotional one - what happens when sexual identity is disclosed within a relationship, particularly when disclosure comes after the relationship has already been established and it doesn't go well. For many people, it can feel like a shock, or even a betrayal, but it can also be the beginning of something more integrated, and potentially more connected.

In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Joshua Gebhart, a licensed marriage and family therapist who specialises in working with mixed-orientation couples, particularly where one partner identifies as gay or bisexual within a previously 'heterosexual' relationship.

We explore:
• Why disclosure can feel so destabilising
• The difference between identity and behaviour
• What happens when sexuality hasn’t been fully understood or expressed
• The role of shame, secrecy, and compartmentalisation
• How couples move through crisis into something more stable
• Why “stay together or break up” is often the wrong question
• What actually helps relationships survive, or end well

If you or someone you know is navigating this, I hope this offers some clarity and reassurance, that there are options, and that you’re not alone in it.

✅ If you're thinking about exploring therapy generally, I’d love to hear from you and you’re very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.

🎯 1:1 Mentoring & Consultancy

Thinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you're curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)

🎁 My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.

Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this course is carefully designed to help you do just that.

‘Life Unlimited’ Course testimonials include:

"John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others."

"The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."

If anything in this video resonates with you, feel free to share your thoughts in the comments, I read every one.

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If there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

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Hi, I’m John-Paul Davies and welcome back to the channel.

In this conversation, I’m joined by Dr Henry Aughterson (currently working as a doctor and training to become a therapist at Re-Vision in London) to explore what it’s really like to train as a therapist, especially when coming from a medical background.

We talk about the differences between the medical model and psychotherapy, the depth and challenge of therapy training, and the personal journey that often sits underneath the decision to become a therapist.

In this video, we explore:
• Moving from medicine into psychotherapy
• The limitations of the medical model in addressing mental health
• What therapy training is actually like (and how intense it can be)
• The balance between intellect and emotion in becoming a therapist
• Social prescribing and the role of community in wellbeing
• Building an authentic presence on social media as a therapist
• Advice for anyone thinking about training

Henry also shares openly about his own experiences of mental health, identity, and navigating uncertainty, something many people considering this path will relate to.

🎯 1:1 Mentoring & Consultancy
Thinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you're curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)

✅ If you're thinking about exploring therapy generally, I’d love to hear from you and you’re very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.

🎁 My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.
Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this course is carefully designed to help you do just that.

📹 More videos like this:
Why I Became a Therapist (From Law to Therapy)
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A Day in the Life of a Therapist
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5 Things I Love About Being a Therapist
(https://www.youtube.com/...)

If anything in this video has touched something for you, or you're considering your own path into therapy, feel free to share your thoughts in the comments, I read them all.

And if you’d like to follow Henry’s journey, I’ll include his Instagram below.
https://www.instagram.com/doctor_mentalhealth?igsh=MXdjMng0MTB0eTE1Zg==

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If there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk

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In this video I’m talking about one of the most difficult and important questions when starting or running a private practice: How much should you charge?

There’s no single “correct” fee for therapy, which is exactly why this can feel so confusing. In this video, I explore a more grounded way of approaching your pricing, one that takes into account your financial reality, your local context, and the psychological factors that can lead many therapists to undercharge.

I also share how I’ve approached setting and increasing my own fee over time, and why I believe demand, rather than comparison, can be a helpful guide. If you’re starting out, or thinking about raising your rate, I hope this gives you something to work from.

🎯 1:1 Mentoring & Consultancy

Thinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you're curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website: (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)

✅ If you're thinking about exploring therapy generally, I’d love to hear from you and you’re very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.

🎁 My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.

Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this course is carefully designed to help you do just that.

‘Life Unlimited’ Course testimonials include:

"John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others."
"The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."

Support the show

If there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk