Most people say that when you get married, you “become one.”

But what does that actually mean… and does it mean losing yourself? In this episode, we talk about individuality in marriage—how to stay true to who you are while building a life with someone else.

We get into: Why personal space still matters in marriage How to balance “your space, my space, and our space” Navigating boundaries without losing connection And what we’re learning about compromise in real time

Marriage isn’t about losing yourself. But it also isn’t about doing whatever you want either. So where’s the balance? 💬

Let us know in the comments: Do you believe in “becoming one,” or do you think individuality matters more?

In this episode, we’re breaking down the reality of conflict in our relationship. From the fallout of a solo clubbing trip in Spain to how our childhoods shaped our tempers, we’re getting honest about why a quick "I'm sorry" isn't always enough.

The Spain Story: Why solo trips can trigger unexpected tension. The "Baseline" Rule: Our strategy for getting back to normal after a fight.

Healing vs. Hiding: Why we stopped using apologies as a "blanket statement." We aren't experts—just a couple navigating the messiness of doing life together.

Join the Conversation: Do you have to settle an argument before bed, or is it better to sleep on it?

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Marriage & Money is a big topic. We talked about our finances in this episode and how we split money in our marriage. The things we have successfully figured out, and the things we still struggle with. Follow us on Instagram & Facebook: Instagram: @jollofandkompa Facebook: Jollof and Kompa - By Alexis & Augustus

Can your spouse really be your everything? Your best friend, your therapist, your lover, your hype person? In this episode, we had an honest conversation about dependency in marriage, why putting that kind of pressure on your partner can quietly damage your relationship, and what it actually looks like to build a healthier dynamic together. Spoiler: he had thoughts. A lot of them. Pull up a chair — Jollof & Kompa is in session

We had a huge fight over a fun activity that Alexis was trying to plan. In this episode we talked about our most recent fight and how we usually find our way back to baseline after arguments.

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In this episode, we talked about surviving as a couple in extreme situations. Working out as a way to stay attractive to your spouse and where Augustus allegience lies in stressful times.

We talked about emotional affairs vs physical affairs, hosting our first house party, and how Alexis failed her first driving test.

Is this a typical behavior for Nigerian men, or is my husband just different? We've been together for 6 years, and he still doesn't celebrate Valentine's Day.