Some things in our lives are not meant to be managed, they are meant to die. In this episode of Let's Be Holy for Real, Stephanie and Erica Jewell have an honest conversation about dying to the flesh, letting go of old mindsets, releasing relationships God did not design to continue, and trusting Him when He asks us to lay something down. whether it is sin, pride, legalistic thinking, toxic attachments, fear, offense, or old habits-if God says let it die, there is life on the other side of. obedience. We are not dying to lose. We are dying to live.

What We Talk About:

• Why some things must die before we can grow
• Why you cannot manage what God told you to crucify
• Trusting God through loss, separation, and surrender
• The danger of digging up what God already buried
• Why obediance opens the door to greater life in Christ

What if the biggest idols in our lives don't look like statues...but look like our phones, platforms, relationships, habits, ambitions, and even church culture? In this honest and eye-opening conversation, Stephanie and Erica unpack the subtle ways idols can take root in the hearts of believers - even while serving in ministry, attending church, and living "good" lives.

From social media addiction to idolizing pastors, relationships, platforms, success, and even life itself...this episode confronts the uncomfortable question:

Who or what do you rub to before you run to God?

What We Talk About:

• Anything you run to before you run to God can become an idol.
• You can leave worldly idols behind and still create idols inside the church.
• Sometimes God will remove idols from your life because He refuses to share His glory.
• We have to ask ourselves: what has my attention, affection, and dependence?
• Your idol may not be a golden calf. It may be your phone.
• The scary part about idols is most people don't realize they have them.

Greek life, sororities, fraternities, convictions, obedience, and the voice of God... whew, we went THERE.

In this powerful and transparent episode, Stephanie and Erica tackle one of the hottest conversations flooding social media right now. Can believers be involved in Greek organizations and still fully follow Christ? This isn't a debate full of condemnation—it's an honest, grace-filled conversation about conviction, loyalty, spiritual discernment, obedience and seeking God for yourself. Whether you're in a sorority/fraternity, thinking about joining one, denouncing on or simply trying to understand the conversation happening online—this episode will challenge you to seek God first above EVERYTHING.

What We Talk About:

• Why Greek life is causing major debate in Christian spaces right now
• What happens when God convicts you about something you once loved
• The pressure, emotions, and backlash that can come with obedience
• Why seeking God for yourself matters more than public opinion
• How to respond with grace when others don't share your convictions

In this episode, Stephanie and Erica Jewel dive into the realities of dating as believers in today's swipe culture. From DMs and dating apps to emotional boundaries and spiritual alignment, they keep it honest about what it truly means to date with purpose. This conversation is raw, practical, and full of truth. If you've ever wondered how to navigate dating without compromising your faith, this episode is for you.

What We Talk About:

• What it really means to date with purpose as a believer
• How your online presence can invite (or deter) the wrong attention
• Setting clear boundaries to avoid compromising situations
• The importance of emotional and spiritual maturity in dating
• Real talk about temptation, boundaries, and self-control
• The importance of seeking God first in every relationship decision

We don't always say it out loud... but a lot of us are walking this journey feeling alone. Not because we don't love God. Not because we're not trying. But because somewhere along the way—through hurt, disappointment, or mistrust—we pulled back. In this episode of Let's Be Holy for Real, we're talking about the tension between isolation and real community.

What We Talk About:

• The danger of withdrawing after being hurt
• Accountability vs. agreement (iron sharpens iron)
• The responsibility to both pour into others and be poured into
• Why isolation can feel safer than connection
• The difference between being set apart and being cut off
• What healthy, Christ-centered community actually looks like

In today's episode of Let's Be Holy for Real, Stephanie and Erica unpack the difference between leading and controlling, honoring versus idolizing, and being guided versus blindly following. They also share personal insights on what it looks like to know the Word for yourself, walk in discernment, and respond when something doesn't feel aligned. Whether you're in leadership or under leadership, this conversation in both a heart check and a call higher.

What We Talk About:

• Why accountability must exist at every level
• True leadership models Christ, not control over people
• Knowing the Word for yourself is essential
• The danger of blind loyalty and spiritual idolatry
• Why everything and everyone must ultimately point back to Christ

Today, we're talking about something that a lot of believers feel, but don't always say out loud: getting tired. Not tired of God...not tired of the walk... but tired in the walk. Because somewhere along the way, many of us were taught, or maybe just picked up, that being saved means always strong, always having it together, always saying "I'm good." But today we're pulling the cover off that. We're talking about what it really looks like to be tired and still faithful!

What We Talk About:

• Difference between quitting and needing strength
• The pressure to always appear okay ("all is well" culture)
• Crawling toward Chritst is still moving foward
• We are helpers one to another
• Wanting to appear "together" instead of being healed
• Transparency with God invites His power

In this episode of Let's Be Holy for Real, Pastor Stephanie and Dr. Erica Jewell dive into the realities of navigating life when it feels overwhelming—when “life be lifing.” They explore how to maintain faith, persevere, and stay rooted in Christ during challenging seasons. From the importance of spiritual rhythm and “basic training” in faith to letting go of pride and truly surrendering to God, Stephanie and Erica share practical insights and encouragement for living holy in real-time.

What We Talk About:

• Life will happen and it can be tough
• When under pressure, we often rely on ourselves... why?
• Many struggles are self-inflicted by not surrendering to God or bringing issues to Him in prayer.
• Faith matures through practice; when life gets chaotic, prior spiritual training allows us to stand firm.
• Dependence on God is a continual choice, not a one-time event.
• Shift your mindset; run to God first, not last.