Stopping Him From Drinking Isn’t My Job: 5 Things I Quit Doing Host Jennifer Randall-Young introduces The Life with an Alcoholic, a show focused on the woman managing life alongside an alcoholic partner, and shares that after eight years trying to make her husband stop drinking she realized “stopping him from drinking is not actually my job.”

She describes five things she stopped doing: buying alcohol, pouring his drinks, letting him drive, narrating/explaining him to others, and researching his alcoholism late at night, and explains what returned when she stopped her nervous system, her opinions, her laugh, and her attention.

She reframes the key question from how to make him stop drinking to what she is spending her attention on, calling the effort unpaid labor. She promotes a free “reality check” assessment, her book Life With An Alcoholic, and a $27 course,

The Impossible Choice, and encourages viewers to stop doing one of the five things this week. 00:00 Welcome and Who This Is For

00:34 The Moment I Quit Managing

02:57 Stop Buying Alcohol

03:57 Stop Pouring His Drinks

05:16 No More Driving

05:47 Stop Covering for Him

06:43 Stop Late Night Research

08:00 What You Get Back

09:47 The Attention Reframe

10:17 Book and Next Steps

10:59 One Thing to Do This Week

12:00 Help Choosing Stay or Go

12:46 You Are Not Crazy

13:46 Final Wrap and Resources

Stop Trying to Fix Him: How to Stop Losing Yourself Married to an Alcoholic Jennifer Randall Young introduces The Life With An Alcoholic as a show for women holding everything together while a partner’s alcoholism escalates, focusing on the quiet ways the spouse changes: hypervigilance, constant scanning, backup plans, and losing her sense of self.

She explains that the grief many feel is often for the woman they were before survival mode took over, and emphasizes that exhaustion comes from capability, not weakness. She offers a free six-minute “reality check assessment” to clarify where viewers are in the process, then shares a key reframe: instead of asking how to make him stop drinking, ask how to stop losing yourself.

She assigns one next step: write down something you used to love, something you’re tired of pretending is fine, and one person you haven’t been honest with, as a first move toward reclaiming your life.

00:00 Welcome and Who This Is For

00:34 The Quiet Disappearing

02:38 What Survival Mode Looks Like

04:11 Grieving the Old You

06:03 You Are Capable Not Weak

06:39 Reality Check Assessment

07:08 The Reframe That Changes Everything

07:33 Three Shifts When You Choose You

09:15 One Small Step Tonight

10:37 You Are Not Crazy

11:19 Subscribe and Weekly Support

11:39 Final Wrap and Next Steps

Living With a Functional Alcoholic: You’re Not Crazy, You’re Carrying Too Much Jennifer Randall Young introduces The Life with an Alcoholic, a show focused on women holding life together while a loved one’s drinking escalates, and describes the isolating reality of living with a “functional” alcoholic whose public life looks fine.

She recounts common experiences like counting bottles at night, secret 2–3 AM Google searches, clearing search history, and feeling traumatized and alone with the “data” others don’t see. She explains why friends and family defend the version of him they know, and shares a 2019 story of calling 911 for a wellness check while traveling for a major presentation.

Jennifer teaches the “three Cs” (you didn’t cause it, can’t control it, can’t cure it), urges redirecting energy back to self-care, offers a private 10-minute “reality check assessment,” and previews next week’s episode on a “third path” beyond Al‑Anon or leaving.

00:00 Welcome to the Show

00:34 Who This Channel Is For

01:02 The Hidden Bottle Count

02:12 What Functional Really Means

03:47 The 2 AM Reality Check

05:11 You Are Not Crazy

05:37 Quick Assessment Tool

06:27 Why No One Sees It

08:17 The 911 Hotel Story

10:28 The Three Cs Framework

11:38 Stop Trying to Control

12:15 Your Exhaustion Explained

13:17 The Third Path Forward

14:08 Subscribe and Next Week

15:09 Final Wrap and Resources

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