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Most women are burnt out trying to do it all—career, family, self—and somehow still feel like they’re failing at every turn. So we have to ask… is “having it all” actually real, or is it the biggest lie we’ve been sold?

In this episode of Mic’d and Medicated, we sit down (again) with Flavia Masson—screenwriter, artist, and a married woman who chose not to have children—to rip apart the pressure women face to be everything to everyone.

Because no matter what you choose, it somehow feels like you lose:
Married, no career = not successful
Career, no kids = not successful
Career + kids = bad mom
Single with a big career = still judged

So what exactly are we all chasing?

We get into the rise of the “trad wife” movement (yes, the sourdough, barefoot-in-the-kitchen fantasy), and why more women are opting out of the chaos of trying to do it all—and instead choosing to do one thing really well.

Flavia says it best: life isn’t a buffet, it’s a fixed menu. If you pick the fish, you’re not getting the chicken. And maybe the real problem is we’ve been told we should want both.

We talk about:

• Why “having it all” might actually mean doing everything halfway
• The societal pressure and judgment women face no matter what they choose
• How women became their own harshest critics
• The mental load, burnout, and unrealistic expectations of modern life
• Why clarity on your priorities matters more than chasing perfection
• How to actually build a life that feels good (not just looks good)

Whether you’re a mom, a career woman, questioning everything, or just exhausted from trying to juggle 10 balls at once, this episode will make you feel seen, validated, and a lot less alone.

Because maybe the goal isn’t to have it all…maybe it’s to choose what actually matters—and own it.

REFERENCES

• Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg: https://leanin.org/book
• “Why Women Still Can’t Have It All” – The Atlantic: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2012/07/why-women-still-cant-have-it-all/309020/
• “Can We All Have It All?” by Anne-Marie Slaughter: https://www.ted.com/talks/anne_marie_slaughter_can_we_all_have_it_all

We’re two New York City women talking candidly about the chaos of modern life, from relationships, parenting, working in and out of the home, to what it takes to stay semi-sane in a world that expects you to hold it all together and be #blessed.

We couldn’t find an honest and vulnerable conversation — so we started one! If you need a laugh, a cry, or just want to hear someone else admit their flaws and validate your crazy, you’re in the right place. Be ready to be… Unfiltered, Unafraid, and UnExpert.

Please follow, like, review, and share the podcast with your family and friends!

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Surgeon General Warning Disclaimer: We are self-prescribed unexperts, so if you have any real questions or need real advice, please call your nearest doctor.

© 2025 Eva Heyman & Caroline Leventhal

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Everyone has pet peeves… we just decided to say ours out loud (hopefully not so loud that we annoy you).

Some of these are minor. Some are completely unhinged. And some might actually be… neurological.

You might be dealing with misophonia—that very real phenomenon where certain sounds (gum smacking, soup slurping, aggressive keyboard typing on airplanes
) instantly trigger your nervous system.

But not all pet peeves are about sound. Some are about something deeper—like sensing inauthenticity, fake happiness, or just… off energy.

As we spiral through our list, we start to realize these aren’t just random icks. They actually reveal a lot about our (very high) standards, our boundaries, and what we really value in other people.

We get into:

• The sounds that instantly trigger our nervous system (misophonia is real)
• The connection between high standards, hygiene, and visual chaos
• Social media “happiness” that just doesn’t feel authentic
• The unspoken rules of airplanes, family dynamics, and work jargon

Some of these are relatable. Some are irrational. All of them are honest.

If you’ve ever felt irrationally annoyed and needed validation—this episode is for you.

And if you just need a good laugh… this is also for you!

We’re two New York City women talking candidly about the chaos of modern life, from relationships, parenting, working in and out of the home, to what it takes to stay semi-sane in a world that expects you to hold it all together and be #blessed.

We couldn’t find an honest and vulnerable conversation — so we started one! If you need a laugh, a cry, or just want to hear someone else admit their flaws and validate your crazy, you’re in the right place. Be ready to be… Unfiltered, Unafraid, and UnExpert.

Please follow, like, review, and share the podcast with your family and friends!

• Follow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/micdandmedicated and YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@MicdMedicated/podcasts
• Subscribe to our Substack: https://substack.com/@micdandmedicated
• Check out our website: micdandmedicated.com

Surgeon General Warning Disclaimer: We are self-prescribed unexperts, so if you have any real questions or need real advice, please call your nearest doctor.

© 2025 Eva Heyman & Caroline Leventhal

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This week on Mic’d & Medicated, we sit down with Dr. Marnie Nussbaum, the Joan Rivers-meets-Elle Woods of dermatology.

From Botox and lip fillers to parenting chaos and midlife confidence, she spills the truth with humor, heart, and unfiltered advice. Get ready to laugh, learn, and finally embrace aging—and yourself—on your own terms.

Whether you’re curious about the science behind cosmetic procedures, juggling motherhood and self-care, or just need a hilarious guide to life in your 40s and 50s, this episode is packed with truths, laughs, and empowerment.

What You’ll Learn:

• Skincare routines that actually work for busy women
• The science behind Botox and fillers
• Balancing parenting, self-care, and confidence
• Debunking myths about aging and beauty
• Personal anecdotes and humor to inspire self-love

Resources & Links:

• Dr. Marnie Nussbaum Website
• Instagram
• LinkedIn
• Skincare line & treatments: Ulthera, The Wrinkle Cure

Chapter Titles

• 00:00 Introduction & Personal Stories
• 04:03 Skincare & Cosmetic Procedures Explained
• 09:48 Parenting Challenges & Self-Care Tips
• 19:32 Busting Myths About Aging & Beauty
• 29:40 Expert Advice on Skin Maintenance & Treatments
• 39:48 Balancing Motherhood & Self-Confidence
• 48:55 Humor & Personal Anecdotes in Beauty & Parenting
• 58:11 Final Tips & Empowerment Messages

We’re two New York City women talking candidly about the chaos of modern life, from relationships, parenting, working in and out of the home, to what it takes to stay semi-sane in a world that expects you to hold it all together and be #blessed.

We couldn’t find an honest and vulnerable conversation — so we started one! If you need a laugh, a cry, or just want to hear someone else admit their flaws and validate your crazy, you’re in the right place. Be ready to be… Unfiltered, Unafraid, and UnExpert.

Please follow, like, review, and share the podcast with your family and friends!

• Follow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/micdandmedicated and YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@MicdMedicated/podcasts
• Subscribe to our Substack: https://substack.com/@micdandmedicated
• Check out our website: micdandmedicated.com

Surgeon General Warning Disclaimer: We are self-prescribed unexperts, so if you have any real questions or need real advice, please call your nearest doctor.

© 2025 Eva Heyman & Caroline Leventhal