"Is your inability to say 'no' to family expectations actually a sign that you haven't built your 'boundary muscle' yet?"

In this episode of Growing Yet Grown, Doyin and Simone tackle one of the "spiciest" topics in African adulthood: how to set boundaries with the people who raised you, sacrificed for you, and still expect things from you that you can't always give.

Growing up in a collectivist culture means we value community responsibility. But as we navigate life; those deep-rooted expectations can often feel like they’re in direct conflict with our personal growth.

How do you hold gratitude for the sacrifices your parents made while advocating for your own values?

"We love the 'village' that raised us, but what happens when the cost of community starts to bankrupt your mental and financial well-being?"

Inside this conversation, we explore:

Why setting boundaries is a skill that should start at a very young age and not when you’re already at a breaking point.

How to differentiate between a "knee-jerk reaction" and a boundary rooted in your core principles.

The art of "containing your help" and why you shouldn't start a financial commitment (like school fees or remittances) that you can't maintain in perpetuity.

The Price of "No": Accepting the short-term discomfort and even the "terrible child" label, for the sake of a more honest, long-term relationship.

Why you shouldn't be "more gingered" about someone else's survival or business than they are.

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