Regulation is not being calm, checking a million boxes, or looking a certain way on the outside. The real definition of regulation is developing self-trust, adaptability, and the ability to stay with yourself rather than disassociate emotionally when life gets hard.

In this episode, we’ll explore how every emotion is a message, and every message draws the path forward to the success you’re after in your business, your relationships, and your life. Regulation is not something you can see on the outside, it’s all about what is happening on the inside.

TOPICS WE EXPLORE:

• Why the aesthetic version of regulation is toxic
• What regulation actually is
• Why doing something because you should gives you zero results
• How to use our emotions as the messages they are
• The self-coaching loop and somatic framework I always use
• A permission slip to redefine regulation in a way that actually serves you

THE POINT:

Regulation is the speed with which you recover from the challenging parts of life. It’s self-trust, adaptability, and the ability to stay with yourself when things get hard (none of which you can see from the outside).

MENTIONED:

• Episode 191: The Internet Made Hustle a Dirty Word
• Fit with Coco: Ash’s go-to workout
• Business Therapy: Ash’s one-on-one coaching

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MORE ABOUT ASH
I am the definition of duality — I swear like a sailor and break rules like it’s my job, but I also hold incredible space for my clients and work my ass off to help them achieve the success they’re after. But I'm also here for the non-preneur woman, too. My background in counseling gives me a unique perspective on what it means to show up, serve, & create connection for those who feel like they've never belonged before.

LINKS:

• Become the Regulated Woman
• Get emails that feel like your best friend (if your best friend was a therapist and actually told you the truth).
• Use code BB20 to get The Burnout Breakthrough for only $7
• Follow me on IG (dropping in once a quarter for updates & gossip)
• Website: ashmcdonaldmentoring.com

Work with me 1:1

• Therapeutic Mentorship
• Business Therapy (therapy + strategic mentorship)

This episode is for every high-achieving woman who feels exhausted trying to build a successful business, be present in her real life, and somehow make it all look effortless.

We’re unpacking hustle culture, high-functioning burnout, soft living, invisible labor, and the shame women carry around ambition so you can stop questioning whether your drive is the problem and start defining success on your own terms again.

TOPICS WE EXPLORE:

• Why hustle culture gets a bad name, and what we lose when we make drive something to apologize for
• The difference between high-functioning burnout and ambition
• What the women I work with are actually running behind the scenes vs. what their content says
• Redefining what rest looks like for high-achieving women
• The sick kid phone call that derailed a perfectly productive day and what the self-coaching loop looked like in real time
• Why shame about how you run your business is the thing that actually causes burnout
• Defining success on your own terms as a mom entrepreneur, without apologizing for the drive that got you here

THE POINT:

There is a difference between burnout and drive. One of the things that causes burnout is when we allow our ambition to become morally judged… by the internet, by other women, or by ourselves. Stop apologizing for your ambition. Hustle is not a dirty word.

MENTIONED:

• Business Therapy: Ash’s one-on-one coaching

Are you loving it? Send Ash a text!

MORE ABOUT ASH
I am the definition of duality — I swear like a sailor and break rules like it’s my job, but I also hold incredible space for my clients and work my ass off to help them achieve the success they’re after. But I'm also here for the non-preneur woman, too. My background in counseling gives me a unique perspective on what it means to show up, serve, & create connection for those who feel like they've never belonged before.

LINKS:

• Become the Regulated Woman
• Get emails that feel like your best friend (if your best friend was a therapist and actually told you the truth).
• Use code BB20 to get The Burnout Breakthrough for only $7
• Follow me on IG (dropping in once a quarter for updates & gossip)
• Website: ashmcdonaldmentoring.com

Work with me 1:1

• Therapeutic Mentorship
• Business Therapy (therapy + strategic mentorship)

Eight months off social media. This episode is the behind-the-scenes of what that actually did… to my business, my relationships, my creativity, and my sense of self.

TOPICS WE EXPLORE:

• What eight months offline actually looked like
• Remembering what I’m actually good at
• How I stopped letting the internet think for me
• Getting my time and energy back
• No longer being bingeable
• The painful friendship and family rifts that social media was fueling
• How I got more intentional about visibility without social

THE POINT:

Social media isn’t bad, it’s just bad for me. And the eight months I spent finding that out gave me back more than I expected… my creativity, my time, my relationships, and the parts of myself I’d handed over to the scroll.

MENTIONED:

• The Digital Detox Diaries: the four-part series I ran on social media during my April return
• Episode 186: The AI Identity Crisis No One Is Talking About
• Episode 188: Stop Pretending Your Business Is Easy: The Truth About High-Functioning Entrepreneurs
• The Quick Fix: 90 minutes one-on-one + 2 weeks Voxer

Are you loving it? Send Ash a text!

MORE ABOUT ASH
I am the definition of duality — I swear like a sailor and break rules like it’s my job, but I also hold incredible space for my clients and work my ass off to help them achieve the success they’re after. But I'm also here for the non-preneur woman, too. My background in counseling gives me a unique perspective on what it means to show up, serve, & create connection for those who feel like they've never belonged before.

LINKS:

• Become the Regulated Woman
• Get emails that feel like your best friend (if your best friend was a therapist and actually told you the truth).
• Use code BB20 to get The Burnout Breakthrough for only $7
• Follow me on IG (dropping in once a quarter for updates & gossip)
• Website: ashmcdonaldmentoring.com

Work with me 1:1

• Therapeutic Mentorship
• Business Therapy (therapy + strategic mentorship)

This episode is the continuation of Episode 188, and if that one was about telling the truth about what it takes to be an entrepreneur, this one is about telling the truth about what’s happening in online business right now. The landscape has shifted. People aren’t committing to long-term offers the way they used to. The economy is doing what it’s doing. And I’ve been collecting data on my own business long enough to know: something has to give.

So I’m pulling back the curtain on exactly what I’m changing, why I’m changing it, and the questions I asked myself to get there.

TOPICS WE EXPLORE:

• What I’m noticing in online business right now
• The data I’ve been collecting on my own business and what it told me to do
• Why I’m not changing my offer, just how I deliver it
• How my own experience as a buyer in this economy informed my decision
• What client retention has looked like and why it matters more than new client volume right now
• The question every entrepreneur should be asking right now before making any big business move

THE POINT:

Most of the time, the answer isn’t to burn down your offer. It’s to ask whether there’s a different way to deliver it that meets your client where she actually is. That takes honesty… about the market, about your own experience as a buyer, and about what’s actually keeping people from saying yes.

MENTIONED:

• Episode 188: Stop Pretending Your Business Is Easy: The Truth About High-Functioning Entrepreneurs
• Business Therapy: Ash’s one-on-one coaching
• The Quick Fix: 90 minutes one-on-one + 2 weeks Voxer
• The Regulated Woman: Being rebranded and expanded

Are you loving it? Send Ash a text!

MORE ABOUT ASH
I am the definition of duality — I swear like a sailor and break rules like it’s my job, but I also hold incredible space for my clients and work my ass off to help them achieve the success they’re after. But I'm also here for the non-preneur woman, too. My background in counseling gives me a unique perspective on what it means to show up, serve, & create connection for those who feel like they've never belonged before.

LINKS:

• Become the Regulated Woman
• Get emails that feel like your best friend (if your best friend was a therapist and actually told you the truth).
• Use code BB20 to get The Burnout Breakthrough for only $7
• Follow me on IG (dropping in once a quarter for updates & gossip)
• Website: ashmcdonaldmentoring.com

Work with me 1:1

• Therapeutic Mentorship
• Business Therapy (therapy + strategic mentorship)

There is a gap I see in almost every high-achieving woman I work with.

What she shows the world. And what she actually tells me.

This episode is my soapbox moment on why high-functioning entrepreneurs need to stop performing a version of their business that isn’t true… and what magic happens when they do.

TOPICS WE EXPLORE:

• What it costs you to perform a version of your business that isn’t true
• Why hiding the hard parts doesn’t make them go away
• What I actually hear from clients vs. what their content says
• The shame seeds we plant when we live in the gap between truth and performance
• Why I won’t tell women to just “slow down” or why your pace isn’t a problem to fix
• Success loops and why your to-do list is probably working against you
• What I love about the version of me who figures out how to do it all

THE POINT:

The way you operate isn’t something to be ashamed of. If you’re hiding parts of your life because they don’t match the version of success you think you’re supposed to project, you’re missing the momentum that lives inside actually owning who you are.

MENTIONED:

• Business Therapy with Ash

Are you loving it? Send Ash a text!

MORE ABOUT ASH
I am the definition of duality — I swear like a sailor and break rules like it’s my job, but I also hold incredible space for my clients and work my ass off to help them achieve the success they’re after. But I'm also here for the non-preneur woman, too. My background in counseling gives me a unique perspective on what it means to show up, serve, & create connection for those who feel like they've never belonged before.

LINKS:

• Become the Regulated Woman
• Get emails that feel like your best friend (if your best friend was a therapist and actually told you the truth).
• Use code BB20 to get The Burnout Breakthrough for only $7
• Follow me on IG (dropping in once a quarter for updates & gossip)
• Website: ashmcdonaldmentoring.com

Work with me 1:1

• Therapeutic Mentorship
• Business Therapy (therapy + strategic mentorship)

Welcome to “From Where I’m Standing”, the monthly episode where I pull back the curtain on my actual life, my business in real time, and the stuff I’m learning the hard way so you don’t have to.

TOPICS WE EXPLORE:

• Why I extended my social media return from one week to three
• The Digital Detox Diaries series and what I shared during my return to socials
• Regulation isn’t the zen aesthetic you’ve been sold
• A 5am panic spiral, three kids’ worth of unexpected expenses, and the three-step self-coaching loop that got me out in under three minutes
• Planning drives paralysis
• Action is what breeds confidence
• Cycle syncing as a business and life blueprint + a piece I wrote in my luteal phase
• Spring break, sports season, and building a village when family isn’t around
• Offer suite updates: business therapy, The Regulated Woman rebrand, and the Clarity Intensive becoming The Quick Fix

THE POINT:

Planning drives paralysis, six weeks of action will tell you more than six months of strategizing ever could.

MENTIONED:

• Episode 186: The AI Identity Crisis No One Is Talking About
• Fit with Coco: Ash’s go-to workout
• The Sanctuary Holistic Wellness (@thesanctuaryholisticwellness): 10-day parasite and heavy metal detox
• The Quick Fix (formerly the Clarity Intensive): 90 minutes one-on-one + 2 weeks Voxer

Are you loving it? Send Ash a text!

MORE ABOUT ASH
I am the definition of duality — I swear like a sailor and break rules like it’s my job, but I also hold incredible space for my clients and work my ass off to help them achieve the success they’re after. But I'm also here for the non-preneur woman, too. My background in counseling gives me a unique perspective on what it means to show up, serve, & create connection for those who feel like they've never belonged before.

LINKS:

• Become the Regulated Woman
• Get emails that feel like your best friend (if your best friend was a therapist and actually told you the truth).
• Use code BB20 to get The Burnout Breakthrough for only $7
• Follow me on IG (dropping in once a quarter for updates & gossip)
• Website: ashmcdonaldmentoring.com

Work with me 1:1

• Therapeutic Mentorship
• Business Therapy (therapy + strategic mentorship)

There’s a career and identity crisis happening right now, and almost nobody is naming the real cause.

When you outsource your thinking, your creating, and your decision-making to AI, you’re not just losing time. You’re also losing the parts of yourself that made you good at what you do in the first place.

TOPICS WE EXPLORE:

• The millennial career and identity crisis
• What overconsumption of tech and AI is actually doing to your ability to think, create, and trust yourself
• Ash’s own experience feeling herself disappear… and the daily writing practice she started to get back
• How AI is showing up in client work
• Where AI is actually useful (and how Ash uses it without losing herself in the process)
• The privacy risk nobody’s talking about
• Why Ash’s husband builds AI, and still agrees with her
• The medicine man with 375k followers, a fake product, and a lesson about what we’re willing to believe
• What taking back your mind actually looks like

THE POINT:

AI isn’t the enemy, but outsourcing your identity is. There’s a version of these tools that helps you pull out your own ideas, refine your own words, and move faster without disappearing. That’s the version worth using…the rest is worth questioning.

MENTIONED:

• Entrepreneur School Podcast with Kelly Sinclair — Ash’s episode on social media and alignment

Are you loving it? Send Ash a text!

MORE ABOUT ASH
I am the definition of duality — I swear like a sailor and break rules like it’s my job, but I also hold incredible space for my clients and work my ass off to help them achieve the success they’re after. But I'm also here for the non-preneur woman, too. My background in counseling gives me a unique perspective on what it means to show up, serve, & create connection for those who feel like they've never belonged before.

LINKS:

• Become the Regulated Woman
• Get emails that feel like your best friend (if your best friend was a therapist and actually told you the truth).
• Use code BB20 to get The Burnout Breakthrough for only $7
• Follow me on IG (dropping in once a quarter for updates & gossip)
• Website: ashmcdonaldmentoring.com

Work with me 1:1

• Therapeutic Mentorship
• Business Therapy (therapy + strategic mentorship)

Control is a belief your nervous system learned a long time ago… the belief that if you stay on top of everything, nothing bad will happen.

The problem is that belief doesn’t know when to stop. And the cost of running it every single day is higher than most high-achieving women realize.

TOPICS WE EXPLORE:

• What control actually is (and why it’s a nervous system pattern)
• Where the need to control comes from
• How control shows up in business
• How control shows up at home
• Why your nervous system is exhausted
• The one question that interrupts the control spiral
• How to train your brain toward safety
• Ash reads from her personal writing on vitiligo, control, and the thing she still hasn’t figured out how to stop trying to fix

THE POINT:

Every time you hand something off and it works out, every time you take a day off and your business is still there, every time you don’t pivot and the thing you were doing actually holds… you’re teaching your nervous system what’s true. That’s the work.

MENTIONED:

• Episode 179 — Decision Fatigue Is the New Burnout (the middle school / false emergency story Ash references)

Are you loving it? Send Ash a text!

MORE ABOUT ASH
I am the definition of duality — I swear like a sailor and break rules like it’s my job, but I also hold incredible space for my clients and work my ass off to help them achieve the success they’re after. But I'm also here for the non-preneur woman, too. My background in counseling gives me a unique perspective on what it means to show up, serve, & create connection for those who feel like they've never belonged before.

LINKS:

• Become the Regulated Woman
• Get emails that feel like your best friend (if your best friend was a therapist and actually told you the truth).
• Use code BB20 to get The Burnout Breakthrough for only $7
• Follow me on IG (dropping in once a quarter for updates & gossip)
• Website: ashmcdonaldmentoring.com

Work with me 1:1

• Therapeutic Mentorship
• Business Therapy (therapy + strategic mentorship)