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  • BPD Negative Behavior - Don’t Confront It - What Can You Do_
    2026/04/08
    BPD Negative Behavior - Don’t Confront It - What Can You Do?

    BPD Negative Behavior - You can’t confront it. You may have unsuccessfully tried endless times. It increases your suffering each time, but to not say anything will increase your suffering as well. This is the heart of BPD toxic relationships wherein you just cannot win.

    What can you actually do? What you can do is admit your are powerless over the person with BPD. So, then what in the middle of no win relationship impossibility?

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    This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
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    Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
    the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
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    32 分
  • High Functioning Borderlines in Careers vs Relationships
    2026/04/05
    High Functioning BPD in Careers vs Relationships

    How can a person diagnosed with BPD and with many active Borderline traits, behaviour etc in a relationship possibly function in careers, and often be or be becoming Social Workers and Psychologists?

    The core reason is the vast difference in many with high functioning BPD having a high IQ in the absence of emotional relational intelligence. They remain, often, toxic in interpersonal relationships despite functioning (to various degrees) in careers or professions.

    People with a degree in Social Work or Psychology are not going to be able to help themselves due to lack/loss of “self” and lacking emotional intelligence and lacking emotional maturity and so much more

    This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
    100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025
    Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
    the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
    Podcast lists.
    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/
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    1 時間
  • Co-Parenting or Paralell Parenting With a BPD Ex - Another RollerCoaster
    2026/02/28
    Co-Pareting or Parallel Parenting With a BPD Ex - Another RollerCoaster

    Co-Parenting or Parallel parenting with a BPD - Borderline Personality Disordered Ex is for so
    many people, a nightmare. Not all BPD parents are the same, but, many, many of them are untreated,competitive, need their child or children's love and validation in such an unhealthy way that their need for a child or children's "loyalty" "never abandon me" drives so many Borderline Mothers and Borderline fathers to alienate you from you child or children.

    Co-parenting efforts on the part of your BPD Ex may well be so full of high-conflict and many a parent with BPD cannot put their child's needs ahead of their own. If the BPD Ex still blames you for everything they deem that was "wrong" with the relationship they carry on believing that you shouldn't have any rightsto "their child". For many Co-parenting will end up more being Parallel parenting. Either way you need to have done your healing work to be able to stay calm, to be non-reactive to the BPD Ex and to only communicate facts about what your child needs.

    Co-parenting, for many, not all, with a BPD Ex just become another somewhat different but very familiar rollercoaster experience that you need to learn how to strategize to cope with while giving your child emotional safety and love and as healthy of a life as you can during your custody or visitation. As conflict-laden as most of these situations
    are it is really not going to be any better for you or your child or children to try to stay in a toxic BPD relationship hoping that will help your child or children. Sadly, they are going to be wounded in childhood.

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    This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
    100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025

    Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
    the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
    Podcast lists.

    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/
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    1 時間
  • BPD Sudden Discard of Monkey Branching Crushed Future
    2026/02/03

    BPD Sudden Discard of Monkey Branching Crushed Future

    Many people who have been in short term or long term relationships with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder experience a BPD sudden discard of monkey branching that just crushes you and all the future plans that you believed were going to be your life unfolding in the relationship with the person with BPD that you didn't know, you didn't
    truly know. The heartbreak, the loss, the shame, the toxic guilt of people with Codependency who for a time blame themselves. BPD sudden Monkey Branching discards add even more pain and confusion to what is experienced in any BPD Breakup. How can you recover from this?

    https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions
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    https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon
    https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube

    This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
    100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025

    Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
    the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
    Podcast lists.

    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/
    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/
    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/
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    48 分
  • The Glass Borderline "H*mpty D*mpty" No Real Self
    2026/01/18
    The Glass Borderline 'H*mpty D*mpty' No Real Self

    BPD Breakups and Codependent BPD Exes endless "what if's' in the confusion, losing of yourself, the rumination, the cognitive dissonance and the constant "how could he/she do this?" "What did I do wrong?" If only I would/could have had ___________ or done _________ or said ____________ or not done or said ____________ All these 'what if's' when you really need to understand the Glass Borderline 'H*mpty D*mpty and why your relationship will not, was not, did not and still cannot work out.

    https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions
    https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts - Podcasts
    https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon
    https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube

    This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
    100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025

    Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
    the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
    Podcast lists.

    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/
    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/
    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/
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    28 分
  • Reactive Abuse in BPD Partners and Exes
    2025/12/21
    Reactive Abuse in BPD Partners and Exe

    s is a trauma-informed podcast focused on understanding reactive abuse, emotional dysregulation, and the complex relationship dynamics that can occur with partners or ex-partners affected by borderline personality disorder (BPD) or similar patterns.

    This podcast wpisode explores how reactive behaviors can develop in emotionally abusive or highly dysregulated relationships—especially when gaslighting, blame-shifting, boundary violations, and chronic emotional stress are present. Listeners will learn the difference between intentional abuse and trauma-based reactions, helping survivors release shame and gain clarity about what actually happened in their relationships.

    Through education, real-world examples, and recovery-focused discussions, the show covers topics such as:

    What reactive abuse is and how it differs from abuse
    Emotional dysregulation and conflict cycles in relationships
    Gaslighting, trauma bonding, and psychological manipulation
    Why survivors may react in ways they don’t recognize
    Healing after emotionally abusive or toxic relationships
    Rebuilding identity, boundaries, and self-trust after trauma
    Nervous system regulation and emotional recovery
    This podcast does not demonize mental health conditions. Instead, it centers on behaviors, relationship patterns, accountability, and healing—offering compassionate insight for those who feel confused, blamed, or silenced after difficult relationships.
    Whether you are recovering from a relationship with a BPD partner or ex, questioning your own reactions, or seeking to understand emotional abuse and trauma responses more clearly, Reactive Abuse in BPD Partners and Exes provides validation, education, and a path forward.
    You are not “crazy.” You are not broken. And healing is possible.

    https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions
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    https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon
    https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube

    This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
    100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025

    Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
    the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
    Podcast lists.

    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/
    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/
    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/
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    26 分
  • Misunderstanding BPD Intensity as Love
    2025/12/06
    Misunderstanding BPD Intensity as Love

    So many partners and ex-partners of people with untreated Borderline Personality Disorder mistake the early intensity for love—because it feels overwhelming, consuming, and deeply validating. In this episode, I gently guide you through why Borderline emotional flooding gets misinterpreted as intimacy, connection, or destiny.

    You’ll learn why intensity is not love, why emotional dysregulation masquerades as passion, and why the early idealization phase feels so powerful to codependents, and trauma survivors. This episode helps you understand the fantasy bond, the rapid trauma-attachment cycle, and the heartbreaking confusion that keeps so many people stuck long after the relationship ends.
    This teaching is here to bring clarity, compassion, and truth—so you can reclaim yourself and begin to heal.

    https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions
    https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts - Podcasts
    https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon
    https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube

    This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
    100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025
    Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
    the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
    Podcast lists.
    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/
    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/
    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/
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    49 分
  • BPD Hypersexuality Is Self-Soothing And You are The Bandage
    2025/12/05
    BPD Hypersexuality Is Self-Soothing And You are The Bandage

    In this episode, we explore the misunderstood and often painful dynamic of Borderline hypersexuality—not as “promiscuity,” not as a moral failure, but as an attempt to self-soothe overwhelming internal distress. I walk you through why so many people with BPD turn to sexual intensity to regulate shame, emptiness, terror of abandonment, and the desperate need to feel momentarily wanted or alive.

    You’ll learn how hypersexual behaviour becomes a survival strategy, not a genuine expression of love or intimacy—and why partners often confuse this intensity for connection. We’ll look at the underlying trauma, dysregulated attachment, and the fragmented self that drive this behaviour, and how these patterns affect those who love someone with untreated BPD.

    This episode is especially helpful for codependents, survivors of BPD relationships, and anyone trying to make sense of why sexual intensity felt fused to love, validation, or bonding—only to later feel discarded, confused, or emotionally injured. With compassion and clarity, we break down the psychological mechanisms at play so you can understand what happened, reclaim your sense of reality, and begin healing from the confusion of trauma-bonded intimacy.

    https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions
    https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts - Podcasts
    https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon
    https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube
    This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
    100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025
    Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
    the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
    Podcast lists.
    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/
    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/
    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/
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    24 分