Where do you draw the line between calling out cheaters and a surveillance state?

In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Harris O'Malley and Dr. Liz Powell dive deep (deep 😉) into the surveillance nightmare that is Cheater Buster's facial recognition software. While their hearts go out to folks who've been cheated on, they also can't overlook how this technology will 100% be used by stalkers and abusers.

They chat about public call-out culture and the complete lack of privacy we've all come to expect, how technology is somehow made with negative ethical considerations, and the fact that men are often the ones at the scene of the crime.

Highlights of the episode:

• FetLife privacy scandals

• Debating the ethics of "Are We Dating the Same Guy?" Facebook groups

• Remembering a time when life wasn't the constant content grind

Before you race to see if your partner is secretly still on Tinder, listen to this. You might just find that trusting someone (or breaking up with them) is better than turning to spyware tech.

Time Stamps

00:00 - Welcome back!

02:00 - Cheater Buster, Tinder, and facial recognition

05:00 - FetLife privacy scandal

10:00 - Meta smart glasses and surveillance tech

16:00 - Why Cheater Buster is actually stalkerware

21:00 - Trust in relationships

24:00 - You can't prove a negative

31:00 - The death of privacy and content-ifying people's worst moments

36:00 - Weaponizing apps

43:00 - Dating entitlement

49:00 - Healing trust issues

54:00 - Dr. Liz and Harris get recognized

60:00 - Final thoughts

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