Are you someone who plans everything… or someone who just figures it out?

In this episode of That Is Not How You Do It, Ram and Anna explore the difference between planners and chaos goblins.

Some people rely on structure, schedules, and preparation. Others prefer spontaneity, flexibility, and going with the flow.

But which approach actually leads to better experiences?

We discuss:

• the psychology behind planning and spontaneity

• why some people need structure while others resist it

• how these personalities clash in everyday life

• and whether planning helps or hurts enjoyment.

Because sometimes the difference between organized and chaotic… is just perspective.

How fast should you text back?

In this episode of That Is Not How You Do It, Ram and Anna explore the unspoken rules of texting — and why response time can feel so personal.

Some people reply instantly. Others take hours — or even days.

But what does that actually mean?

We discuss:

• fast texters vs slow texters

• the psychology behind response timing

• why read receipts cause anxiety

• and how texting has changed modern communication.

Because sometimes the difference between rude and normal… is just how long someone takes to reply.

Shoes in the house — normal behavior or absolute chaos?

In this episode of That’s Not How You Do It, Ram and Anna dive into one of the most surprisingly passionate household debates.

Some people believe outside shoes should never touch the floor inside a home. Others think it’s completely normal.

But this debate goes deeper than just dirt.

We explore:

• cultural norms around shoes indoors

• hygiene vs convenience

• the awkward moment when you walk into someone else’s home

• and why the way we treat our floors can reveal how we view our living space.

Because sometimes the difference between “normal” and “insane”… is just how someone was raised.