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You do an estimated 35+ hours of unpaid invisible labor every week — operations, project management, crisis response, HR, executive decision-making. And most of us have been conditioned to call it "just being a mom."

In this episode, Aimee Rickabus talks with Dr. Danielle Dowling, Psy.D. — certified life coach, doctor of psychology, and author of the upcoming book Good Girl, Bad Mom — about the invisible workload that motherhood demands, why naming it as work feels like betrayal, and what it actually takes to reclaim your self-worth inside the life you love.

Dr. Dowling shares:
- Why "good girl conditioning" turns overwhelm into personal shame — not systemic critique
- The Oxfam stat that will stop you cold: women globally perform $10 trillion of unpaid labor annually
- The motherhood org chart — and the six-figure salaries those skills would command at any company
- Why self-abandonment gets labeled "good mom-ness" — and how to start seeing it clearly
- A powerful language swap: replace "help" with "own" to transfer real household responsibility
- Her self-worth → self-respect → self-care framework, and why starting with self-care always fails

Whether you're a working mom, a stay-at-home mom, or somewhere in the messy middle — this conversation will give you language for something you've always felt but never been allowed to name.

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