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The Love You To Life Show

The Love You To Life Show

著者： Calvalyn Day & Elizabeth White
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The Love You to Life Show is a biweekly podcast for high-achieving women who are ready to love their lives—not just survive them. Hosted by two sisters—one sweet, one spicy—who mix faith, storytelling, and real-life strategy to help you own your choices, embrace what matters, and build a life that feels as good as it looks. If you’re craving peace, purpose, and a community that gets it, you’re in the right place. Level up with us—and start living on your terms.Calvalyn Day & Elizabeth White 個人的成功 自己啓発
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  • The Weathering of Black Women in America

    The Weathering of Black Women in America
    2026/07/02

    In this episode of the Love You To Life Podcast, Elizabeth White and Calvalyn Day get real about weathering, a discussion that is perfect for Minority Mental Health Month.

    They break down where the term comes from (public health researcher Dr. Arline Geronimus's 1990s research), what allostatic load actually means for your body, and why migraines, gut issues, autoimmune flare-ups, and the specific exhaustion of code-switching might be your body keeping score.

    This episode speaks to the high-achieving woman who is tired in a way rest doesn't touch, the one everyone calls the strong one, and the one who's been told her whole life to push through. Elizabeth and Calvalyn's core message: you don't have to shrink your ambition to protect your body — you have to stop carrying it alone.

    Stay Connected!

    Instagram

    Elizabeth — https://www.instagram.com/lovinglifewithliz

    Calvalyn — https://www.instagram.com/calvalyn/?hl=en


    TikTok

    Elizabeth — https://www.tiktok.com/@lovinglifewithliz

    Calvalyn — https://www.tiktok.com/@calvalynday

    LinkedIn

    Calvalyn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/calvalynday/

    Elizabeth — https://www.linkedin.com/in/elizabeth-white-lmhc-lcac-board-certified-life-coach-34ba8734/

    Key Takeaways

    • You are not exempt from weathering just because you've made it — income and education don't protect your body from cumulative stress.

    • Migraines, gut issues, and autoimmune flare-ups can be your body's way of telling you it's weathering.

    • Code-switching fatigue is real. Being tired of performing is different from being tired of doing.

    • One hour of self-care can't undo 167 hours of structural stress — soothing and addressing are not the same thing.

    • Build a full care team: a doctor who truly sees you, a therapist, and a life coach.

    • If your doctor says they “don't see color,” that's a red flag, not a compliment.

    • You don't have to eliminate stress to protect your health — you get to choose which stress is worth carrying.

    • Being “the strong one” doesn't mean you're not weathering. It just means no one's asking how you're doing.

    • Advocacy, boundaries, and community are not optional extras — they're part of your actual health care.

    • You can still be ambitious. This is about building the infrastructure to sustain your dreams, not shrinking them.

    Chapters

    00:00 Welcome & Shenanigans

    01:10 Why We're Talking About Weathering Now

    02:26 Defining Weathering: The Research Behind the Word

    05:36 Allostatic Load & the Cost Your Body Pays

    08:34 Success Doesn't Make You Exempt

    12:12 When Making It Still Isn't Protection

    18:22 Signs You Might Be Weathering

    21:30 The Exhaustion of Code-Switching

    23:32 Why Bubble Baths Don't Fix Weathering

    25:06 Soothing vs. Addressing

    26:09 Advocacy, Boundaries & Your Care Team

    26:54 Finding a Doctor Who Sees You

    35:05 Sleep, High-Functioning Depression & Your Support Team

    36:48 Redesigning Ambition Without the Cost

    42:04 Your Weathering Action Plan

    Keywords

    Love You To Life Podcast, Elizabeth White, Calvalyn Day, weathering, weathering hypothesis, Arline Geronimus, allostatic load, Black women's health, minority mental health month, high-achieving Black women, code-switching, self-care, mental load, chronic stress, medical advocacy, therapy, life coaching, Black maternal health, ambition and health
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    45 分
  • Fear, Fatigue & the Caregiver Identity

    Fear, Fatigue & the Caregiver Identity
    2026/06/18

    In this episode of the Love You To Life Podcast, Elizabeth White and Calvalyn Day dig into one of the most deeply rooted patterns affecting high-achieving women, and Black women in particular: the identity that forms when you spend a lifetime being everything to everyone else and very little to yourself. Calvalyn calls it the 92%ers topic. Buckle in.

    Sparked by two viral videos, one from an elderly woman, talking about women who never learn to receive care, and another featuring Wall Street powerhouse Carla Harris in conversation with Mel Robbins about fear and fatigue as the two forces that keep Black women from reaching their full potential, Elizabeth and Calvalyn go deep into the science and the soul of it all. They explore how caregiving identity forms in childhood, how repeated patterns beat neural pathways in the brain, how the fear of being called lazy is a trauma response rooted in generational history, and why emotional excavation is the only way out.

    This episode is for every woman who has held her pee so she could cross one more thing off her list, who always says 'I got it' when someone offers to help, or who has accomplished so much she's exhausted at the thought of going after the thing that she really wants. Elizabeth and Calvalyn close with a powerful challenge for every woman who is ready to love her life.

    Resources Mentioned

    Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome, Dr. Joy DeGruy https://amzn.to/4xvneC1

    Stay Connected!

    Instagram

    Elizabeth, https://www.instagram.com/lovinglifewithliz

    Calvalyn, https://www.instagram.com/calvalyn/?hl=en

    TikTok

    Elizabeth, https://www.tiktok.com/@lovinglifewithliz

    Calvalyn, https://www.tiktok.com/@calvalynday

    LinkedIn

    Calvalyn, https://www.linkedin.com/in/calvalynday/

    Elizabeth, https://www.linkedin.com/in/elizabeth-white-lmhc-lcac-board-certified-life-coach-34ba8734/

    Chapters

    00:00 Opening: The 92%ers Topic, Buckle In

    00:52 Why This Episode Matters (and Why You Should Share It)

    01:16 How an Episode Gets Born: TikTok Inboxes and Toe-Dipping

    04:30 Video 1: Women Conditioned to Caregive from Birth

    05:05 The Question: When Did You First Start Taking Care of Others?

    06:55 Calvalyn's Story: Being an Auntie Before She Was Born

    07:52 When Identity Forms Around What Others Need from You

    08:25 If You've Ever Felt Like: Who Am I Without the People I Care For?

    09:00 How Caregiving Patterns Show Up in Adult Relationships

    10:22 Raising People Who Can Stand on Their Own

    12:33 The Cultural Context: Adultifying Black Children

    14:12 We Are Not Raising Children to Step Aside

    15:26 Leila's School Project: A Lesson in Not Giving Up Your Seat

    18:02 What We're Excavating Now Was Planted Then

    19:00 Brain Science: How Repeated Patterns Become Your Operating System

    21:54 When to Work with a Therapist or Coach

    22:25 Video 2: Carla Harris on Fear and Fatigue for Black Women

    24:25 Overqualified and Exhausted: The Cost of Getting Here

    26:18 Fear Gets More Sophisticated as You Age, Elizabeth's Take

    27:07 Where Do They Actually Want Us? A Real Conversation

    28:46 Elizabeth's Childhood Memory: Swallowing Grief to Protect Her Dad

    30:33 It Wasn't Wrong, But Look at the Meaning You Made from It

    31:30 The L Word: How Fear of Being Called Lazy Is a Generational Wound

    32:23 Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome and What We Passed Down

    32:45 Elizabeth's Pee Story, and What It Actually Means

    34:12 Saying 'I Got It' When Someone Offers to Help

    35:25 What Would It Look Like to Actually Receive?

    35:44 The Abundance Challenge: $21 and a Tag-In

    37:46 The Pre-Work Question: Where Do You Feel Supported Right Now?

    39:40 Train Your Brain to See More of What You Want

    40:25 The Reticular Activating System and Why Gratitude Changes Everything

    42:23 Gratitude and Desire Can Coexist, You Don't Have to Choose

    43:47 You Don't Have to Be Old and Tired

    44:14 Close: Love Your Life and the People in It
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    43 分
  • Choose Your Hard

    Choose Your Hard
    2026/06/04
    In this episode of the Love You To Life Podcast, Elizabeth White and Calvalyn Day get honest about the one conversation nobody wants to have...the cost of staying stuck. Life feels hard right now: gas prices, layoffs, uncertainty, a season that won’t quit. But Elizabeth and Calvalyn make a powerful case that hard is on both sides of the equation. It is hard to stay exactly where you are. It is hard to change. The question is: which hard are you willing to live with?Drawing on brain science, faith, personal stories, and real talk, Elizabeth and Calvalyn break down why your brain is wired to keep you in familiar discomfort, what self-betrayal and self-abandonment actually look like when you keep deferring your own life, and how staying stuck is not the safe route, it is just the familiar one. This episode is for every woman who has put her dreams on a vision board, scripted it, visualized it, and still has not taken a single step. Elizabeth and Calvalyn remind their Love-You-to-Lifers that confidence comes from movement, clarity comes from movement, and the right time is not coming to save you. Resources Mentioned:Mastering the Messy Middle WorkshopCheck out The Well Counseling & Consulting Group Stay Connected! InstagramElizabeth — @lovinglifewithlizCalvalyn — @calvalyn TikTokElizabeth — @lovinglifewithlizCalvalyn — @calvalynday LinkedInCalvalyn DayElizabeth White, LMHC, LCAC Chapters01:00 Why Things Feel Hard Right Now02:00 Choose Your Hard: It’s Hard to Stay AND Hard to Change04:30 Do You Know Who You Are?06:30 Laughter Is Medicine: Why We Clown in Love You To Life Land07:30 Elizabeth’s Story: The Speech Class That Almost Cost Her a Degree09:00 What You Avoid Is Often Where Your Purpose Lives10:00 Going All In: 10 Toes Down on the Hard Decision12:30 Doing Hard Things Creates Neural Pathways13:00 Your Brain’s One Job: Keep You Alive, Not Happy14:00 Self-Betrayal and Self-Abandonment Nobody Talks About14:30 Comparison, Resentment & Who Is Really the Problem15:30 Dr. Cheyenne Bryant, Your Voice & What Happens When You Stay Silent16:00 Staying Stuck Makes Discomfort Familiar17:00 David Goggins, Pain & Why Success Does Not Have to Hurt18:00 Getting Unstuck Looks Nothing Like the Movies18:30 Calvalyn’s Story: The Quiet Moment She Decided to Get Divorced19:30 The Messy Middle: What Happens Between the Decision and the Destination20:00 You Don’t Have to Connect All the Dots Right Now21:30 Clarity and Confidence Come from Movement, Not Waiting22:00 Faith, the Unknown Hard & Choosing to Move Anyway23:00 Vision Boards Won’t Work Without Micro Steps24:00 Walk Around the Living Room. Take the Skin Off the Chicken.25:00 Therapy, Certified Life Coaching & Support Groups26:00 How to Find the Right Therapist (and Why 3–5 Sessions Is Fair)27:00 Girl, You Just Wait — Elizabeth’s Self-Talk Strategy29:00 Faith, Patience & What the Book Says About the Other Side30:00 Get Clear on What the Other Side Could Look Like32:00 Every Day You Don’t Choose, You’re Still Choosing33:00 Areas Where Stuckness Hides: Marriage, Parenting, Business35:00 Church, Cities, Careers & Giving Yourself Permission to Change37:00 Calvalyn’s Career Pivot (and Her Fresh-Cut Bangs)38:00 Where Are You Not Satisfied? Go Investigate.39:00 Community Challenge: Tell Us the Hard Thing You Did Keywordsgetting unstuck, choose your hard, doing hard things, fear of change, staying stuck, self-betrayal, self-abandonment, growth mindset, neural pathways, brain science and behavior, messy middle, comfort zone, moving forward, life transitions, Black women empowerment, high achievers, women and mental health, therapy for women, certified life coach, support community, vision board, micro steps, faith and action, fear of the unknown, love you to life podcast, Elizabeth White, Calvalyn Day, women doing hard things, stuck and scared, clarity comes from movement, right time is waiting on you
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    39 分
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