Have you ever noticed that whatever you're feeling, your mind immediately points towards the opposite? When we're lonely, it promises connection. When we're uncertain, it longs for certainty. When we're overwhelmed, it paints a picture of an easier life. What if this isn't a problem to fix, but simply the way a survival mind works?

In this episode, I shares a personal story from her experience with panic attacks and introduces a simple metaphor that's become central to her understanding: the back door. What if we've been innocently walking away from ourselves... without ever realising it? A gentle conversation about feelings, survival, and what it really means to come HOME.

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"The Thought Trap — a space for quieting the busy brain, turning down the noisy chatter, and stepping more fully into life"

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As a Certified Change Coach trained by Dr. Amy Johnson, PhD, and a member of the Association of Coaching, I approach wellbeing from a holistic perspective. Coaching can be incredibly powerful and life-changing, but it is not a substitute for counselling, therapy, or medical treatment. I am not a licensed medical professional, and the information shared in this podcast is based on my coaching training, lived experience, and work in my private practice, The Missing Peace. Nothing shared is intended as advice or a replacement for professional care. Please take what resonates, leave the rest, and always seek support from a licensed medical or mental health professional for any psychological or physical health concerns

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This week's Trap Talk question comes from a mum of three who says:

"Parenting mainly falls on my shoulders because my husband works a lot, and we've kind of agreed that what I say goes. But honestly, that feels like a huge responsibility. I constantly feel like I need to say the right thing and do the right thing, and with my older two children I feel like we're forever coming to blows. I spend so much time worrying about whether I'm getting it right and trying to work out the best way to handle things.

I've listened to The Thought Trap from the beginning, and I'm getting a real feel for how we work as human beings, but I'm struggling to see how any of this applies to parenting. In a world full of parenting books, experts and advice, how do I know what to do? And how do I stop carrying the weight of feeling responsible for everyone being okay?"

Listen to the episode to see how I speak to this......

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"The Thought Trap — a space for quieting the busy brain, turning down the noisy chatter, and stepping more fully into life"

Disclaimer:

As a Certified Change Coach trained by Dr. Amy Johnson, PhD, and a member of the Association of Coaching, I approach wellbeing from a holistic perspective. Coaching can be incredibly powerful and life-changing, but it is not a substitute for counselling, therapy, or medical treatment. I am not a licensed medical professional, and the information shared in this podcast is based on my coaching training, lived experience, and work in my private practice, The Missing Peace. Nothing shared is intended as advice or a replacement for professional care. Please take what resonates, leave the rest, and always seek support from a licensed medical or mental health professional for any psychological or physical health concerns

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We all have ideas about who we are. "I'm just the way I am." "I've always been like this." "It's in my makeup." But where did those ideas come from in the first place? In this episode of The Thought Trap, I explore how the stories we hold about ourselves are often built from experiences, comments, interpretations and repeated thoughts that, over time, begin to feel like facts.

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👉Episode 47 (Apple)://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-47-the-emotional-identity-trap-the-thought-trap/id1801723772?i=1000752964486

👉Episode 47 (Spotify) https://open.spotify.com/episode/1HUdrmDPqLqgMs2Jrob7il?si=3db1da3408244555

"The Thought Trap — a space for quieting the busy brain, turning down the noisy chatter, and stepping more fully into life"

Disclaimer:

As a Certified Change Coach trained by Dr. Amy Johnson, PhD, and a member of the Association of Coaching, I approach wellbeing from a holistic perspective. Coaching can be incredibly powerful and life-changing, but it is not a substitute for counselling, therapy, or medical treatment. I am not a licensed medical professional, and the information shared in this podcast is based on my coaching training, lived experience, and work in my private practice, The Missing Peace. Nothing shared is intended as advice or a replacement for professional care. Please take what resonates, leave the rest, and always seek support from a licensed medical or mental health professional for any psychological or physical health concerns

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In today episode, I want to talk about what was probably my biggest coping mechanism for many years: reassurance. But while reassurance happened to be mine, this episode isn't really about reassurance. It's about coping mechanisms in general. The things we reach for when we don't feel okay. The things that seem to help, at least for a while. The things that promise relief, comfort, certainty, or distraction. Because whether it's reassurance, Googling, scrolling, keeping busy, planning, checking, avoiding, eating, drinking, or endlessly trying to work something out, most of us have something we turn to when life feels uncomfortable. And understanding what was really happening beneath my coping mechanism changed everything for me and those that I work with.

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"The Thought Trap — a space for quieting the busy brain, turning down the noisy chatter, and stepping more fully into life"

Disclaimer:

As a Certified Change Coach trained by Dr. Amy Johnson, PhD, and a member of the Association of Coaching, I approach wellbeing from a holistic perspective. Coaching can be incredibly powerful and life-changing, but it is not a substitute for counselling, therapy, or medical treatment. I am not a licensed medical professional, and the information shared in this podcast is based on my coaching training, lived experience, and work in my private practice, The Missing Peace. Nothing shared is intended as advice or a replacement for professional care. Please take what resonates, leave the rest, and always seek support from a licensed medical or mental health professional for any psychological or physical health concerns

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What if the thing we're searching for isn't more structure, but something we've known all along? In this solo episode, I explore the difference between routine and rhythm, and what happens when we start paying attention to own rhythms :)

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"The Thought Trap — a space for quieting the busy brain, turning down the noisy chatter, and stepping more fully into life"

Disclaimer:

As a Certified Change Coach trained by Dr. Amy Johnson, PhD, and a member of the Association of Coaching, I approach wellbeing from a holistic perspective. Coaching can be incredibly powerful and life-changing, but it is not a substitute for counselling, therapy, or medical treatment. I am not a licensed medical professional, and the information shared in this podcast is based on my coaching training, lived experience, and work in my private practice, The Missing Peace. Nothing shared is intended as advice or a replacement for professional care. Please take what resonates, leave the rest, and always seek support from a licensed medical or mental health professional for any psychological or physical health concerns

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It's the monthly segment "Trap Talk".......where I get to speak to your questions.

"I’ve realised I spend so much of my life worrying about what other people think of me. I replay conversations, second guess myself afterwards, and sometimes stop myself doing things because I’m so caught up in how I might come across. I honestly think it’s holding me back".

In this episode, we explore the stories the mind creates about how we’re seen by others, the separate little “bubbles” we all live in as humans, and why so much of the feeling of being judged is actually being created through our own internal experience in the moment.

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"The Thought Trap — a space for quieting the busy brain, turning down the noisy chatter, and stepping more fully into life"

Disclaimer:

As a Certified Change Coach trained by Dr. Amy Johnson, PhD, and a member of the Association of Coaching, I approach wellbeing from a holistic perspective. Coaching can be incredibly powerful and life-changing, but it is not a substitute for counselling, therapy, or medical treatment. I am not a licensed medical professional, and the information shared in this podcast is based on my coaching training, lived experience, and work in my private practice, The Missing Peace. Nothing shared is intended as advice or a replacement for professional care. Please take what resonates, leave the rest, and always seek support from a licensed medical or mental health professional for any psychological or physical health concerns

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As a society we are always on, always available. Phones pinging. Messages arriving. Attention constantly being pulled somewhere else.

In this episode of The Thought Trap, I explore the exhaustion that can come from never really switching off and the pace so many of us have quietly become used to living at. A conversation about busyness, constant availability, comparison, running on fumes, and what happens when we finally allow ourselves to pause. Because maybe we don’t need to keep filling every gap.

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"The Thought Trap — a space for quieting the busy brain, turning down the noisy chatter, and stepping more fully into life"

Disclaimer:

As a Certified Change Coach trained by Dr. Amy Johnson, PhD, and a member of the Association of Coaching, I approach wellbeing from a holistic perspective. Coaching can be incredibly powerful and life-changing, but it is not a substitute for counselling, therapy, or medical treatment. I am not a licensed medical professional, and the information shared in this podcast is based on my coaching training, lived experience, and work in my private practice, The Missing Peace. Nothing shared is intended as advice or a replacement for professional care. Please take what resonates, leave the rest, and always seek support from a licensed medical or mental health professional for any psychological or physical health concerns

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This week on The Thought Trap, we explore how quickly the mind makes life personal. Why can two people experience the exact same moment so differently? Why do neutral situations suddenly feel loaded? And what happens when we begin to notice the stories the mind automatically creates about “me”? A warm, funny, reflective episode about the personalising mind, survival wiring, and seeing life with a little more ease.

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"The Thought Trap — a space for quieting the busy brain, turning down the noisy chatter, and stepping more fully into life"

Disclaimer:

As a Certified Change Coach trained by Dr. Amy Johnson, PhD, and a member of the Association of Coaching, I approach wellbeing from a holistic perspective. Coaching can be incredibly powerful and life-changing, but it is not a substitute for counselling, therapy, or medical treatment. I am not a licensed medical professional, and the information shared in this podcast is based on my coaching training, lived experience, and work in my private practice, The Missing Peace. Nothing shared is intended as advice or a replacement for professional care. Please take what resonates, leave the rest, and always seek support from a licensed medical or mental health professional for any psychological or physical health concerns

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