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For most of my twenties, partying wasn’t just something I did — it was who I was.

Clubs four nights a week. Music. Drugs. Dancing until the lights came on. I found inspiration there. I found community there. I also found confusion there.

So when I got an email from someone calling himself The Party Coach, I was intrigued — and skeptical.

In this episode, I sit down with Evan Cudworth, who has built his work around one central question: Why do we struggle to connect — and what role does partying actually play in that?

This conversation goes deeper than I expected.

We talk about:

• What partying really means beyond drugs and alcohol
• The idea of “social fitness” — and why we’ve lost the reps
• Dopamine, social media, and our addiction to digital validation
• Cocaine, nostalgia, and the thin line between transcendence and numbness
• Whether Gen Z is missing something essential — or just evolving differently
• And the uncomfortable idea that maybe we’ve overcorrected into safety

Evan doesn’t preach sobriety. He doesn’t glamorize chaos. And I don’t agree with everything he says.

But I do believe this: something has shifted in how we gather, how we connect, and how we let ourselves feel alive in a room full of strangers.

This episode is about unpacking that shift — honestly.

If you’ve ever wondered whether your wild years were reckless or sacred… this one might resonate.

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