We grow up believing that a good relationship means good sex.

That if you’re having enough of it…
If the chemistry is there…
If the spark hasn’t faded…

Then everything else must be working.

But that’s not always true.

Because you can be having loads of sex…
And still feel completely disconnected.

In this reflection episode of Why Do I, I unpack one of the biggest mindset shifts I’ve had around relationships… following my conversation with Henika Patel.

I open up about how I used to measure the success of a relationship through sex alone…
Why so many men fall into that trap…
And how that way of thinking can quietly damage something that could’ve been meaningful.

We get into why desire naturally changes over time…
The difference between spontaneous and responsive desire…
And why chasing the early “dopamine phase” can stop you from building something deeper.

I also share my own experiences with validation, distraction, and not having the tools to communicate properly in relationships…
And why most couples aren’t actually struggling with sex - they’re struggling with connection.

If you’ve ever questioned your attraction in a relationship…
If things have felt different over time…
If you’ve ever used sex as a way to measure how things are going…

This episode will shift the way you see it.

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💎 This show is part of the ⁠I.A.M Podcasts⁠ roster

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