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When a client walks into your office and seems confused, overwhelmed, or unable to make decisions, it’s easy to see the behaviour and miss what’s underneath it.

In many family law cases, what looks like indecision or emotional instability is actually the result of coercive control.

In this episode, I unpack what coercive control really is, how it presents in your clients, and why understanding it will completely change the way you work with certain divorce cases.

Because this isn’t just about legal process.

It’s about recognising the psychological impact your client is carrying.

IN THIS EPISODE, I COVER:

• What coercive control in relationships actually looks like
• Why coercive control is often missed in family law cases
• How coercive control impacts decision-making and behaviour
• Why your client may seem emotional, inconsistent, or “difficult”
• The link between coercive control and divorce complexity
• How some ex-partners use control through legal processes
• Why clients struggle with clarity, confidence, and communication
• What not to do when working with clients affected by coercive control
• What actually helps clients feel safe enough to make decisions
• How understanding coercive control makes your job easier as a family lawyer

WHO THIS EPISODE IS FOR

This episode is for:

• Family lawyers working with complex divorce cases
• Solicitors supporting clients in high-conflict separations
• Legal professionals noticing clients who struggle to decide or communicate
• Anyone working with women leaving emotionally abusive or controlling relationships

ABOUT LORENE

I’m Lorene Roberts, Holistic Counsellor, Root-Cause Therapist, and Pattern Disrupter.

I work with women, mostly 50+, who are navigating divorce, separation, and the aftermath of coercive and controlling relationships.

My work focuses on helping them rebuild their confidence, reconnect with their voice, and make clear, grounded decisions about their future.

WORK WITH ME

If you’re a family lawyer working with clients affected by coercive control and want support alongside the legal process, I’d love to connect.

When your client is emotionally supported:

• They communicate more clearly
• They make decisions more confidently
• They engage more effectively in the process

Which makes your job easier too.

You can explore resources or connect with me here:
https://loreneroberts.com/professional-resources

Or book a conversation:
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Most people are okay with their pain because it’s familiar.

In this episode of Real Talk, Richard and I unpack what really sits underneath“I’m fine.”

We talk about the gap between coping and actually living, how many high-functioning people build lives that look successful on the outside while quietly running on survival mode underneath.

Here’s what happens:

• We tolerate
• We normalise
• We distract
• We hide
• We ignore
• We keep going

Until one day… we can’t.

That sudden anxiety at the supermarket.
The tears that come out of nowhere.
The burnout that hits behind closed doors.
The moment you realise you’ve been lying to yourself for a very long time.

We also discuss:

• Why most people don’t ask for help until things become unbearable
• The ways we cover up pain to keep functioning
• Emotional isolation created by “tough love” conditioning
• Financial anxiety and health neglect that builds in silence
• Self-doubt that hides behind capability
• What happens when your body forces you to stop
• Why time doesn’t actually heal what hasn’t been processed
• And how simply being seen can begin to shift everything

This is not about fixing yourself.

It’s about recognising when coping has quietly replaced living, and choosing something different.

If you’re tired of saying “I’m fine” when you’re really not, this conversation is for you.

Timestamps

00:00 Introduction
02:10 The difference between coping and living
05:20 Why most people tolerate pain for years
12:30 The hidden signs of chronic stress
16:40 When anxiety suddenly appears
20:15 Burnout behind closed doors
24:00 Imposter syndrome in disguise
28:10 Childhood conditioning and “tough love”
34:20 Emotional isolation
39:00 Why time doesn’t heal
44:30 Being seen without needing solutions
49:20 The moment you realise you’re not fine
54:00 Accepting where you are
58:30 Reaching out for support

If this episode resonates, join my Skool community, a safe, supportive space for women navigating life transitions like the empty nest, separation, identity shifts, and personal growth.

👉 Join us on Skool and come be part of the conversation.
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You spent years being “Mum”.

Caring, organising, supporting, worrying, and holding everything together.

So when your kids grow up and leave home, something unexpected can happen.
The house gets quieter… and inside, you feel lost.

Not sad exactly.
Not depressed.
Just unsure of who you are now, and what your life is meant to look like next.

In this episode, we talk about the empty nest identity crisis , the part no one really prepares you for.

This isn’t just about missing your children.
It’s about what happens when a role you’ve lived inside for decades quietly ends.

If you’ve ever found yourself asking:

• Who am I now my kids don’t need me in the same way?
• Why do I feel empty when I thought I’d feel free?
• Why does this feel bigger than “just an empty house”?

You’re not alone, and nothing has gone wrong.

In this episode, I gently walk you through:

• Why feeling lost after your kids leave is a completely normal identity shift
• How unconscious patterns, roles, and expectations shaped who you became
• Why this stage of life can stir grief, confusion, and even guilt
• A simple 3-step reset to help you reconnect with yourself again

We also talk about how to create new purpose and direction, without pressure or overwhelm.

This includes:

• Exploring hobbies and interests you may have put aside
• Creating new goals that are actually about you
• Volunteering or contributing in ways that feel meaningful
• Strengthening friendships, partnerships, and social connections
• Knowing when to reach out for support, whether through trusted friends, groups, or professional guidance

This isn’t about reinventing yourself overnight.
And it’s not about filling your time just to stay busy.

It’s about remembering who you are beneath the roles you’ve played.

If you’re in the empty nest phase and quietly wondering “what now?”, this episode will help you feel seen, grounded, and reminded that this is not the end of your purpose , it’s the beginning of a new chapter.

🌱 Join the Community

If this episode resonates, I’d love to invite you to join my Skool community, a safe, supportive space for women navigating life transitions like the empty nest, separation, identity shifts, and personal growth.

Inside the community, you’ll find:

• Honest conversations
• Practical tools and guidance
• Support from women who get it
• A place to reconnect with yourself, without judgement

You don’t have to do this stage of life alone.

👉 Join us on Skool and come be part of the conversation.
https://www.skool.com/the-change-makers-2078/about?ref=4d349337c57a4956baef

Learn More about Lorene:
https://loreneroberts.com/about


Be part of our growing Community!

https://www.facebook.com/LoreneRobertsHolisticCousellor

Check our Website:
https://loreneroberts.com

If you want more content like this and to help support this podcast, you can Buy Me a Coffee by clicking the link below:

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/wowlli?fbclid=IwAR1hch2v3XJ08zqmjuPled28N73L4WNYBiGmg6qbGuHaGimcv7N3_IXuy4c

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