Welcome back to We're Doing It! Today we are tackling a topic we all thought we’d be done with by high school graduation: friendship breakups, adult drama, and the absolute minefield of making new connections as grown-ups.
From getting inexplicably ghosted by long-time couple friends to navigating boundary-crossing coworkers who wait in your room before the work day starts, Sofia and Albert lay it all out. If you’ve ever looked at your circle and realized you might actually have zero close friends to call when you’re sad, this episode is your support group.
Pull up a chair, fill out the Google Form in our show notes to apply to be Albert's new friend, and let’s get into it!
Episode Markers:
- (00:01:10) Albert shares the raw, hurtful details of his recent major friendship breakup and getting completely ghosted after years of family hangs.
- (00:06:45) The accidental "butt-dial" from the ex-best friend that felt like a covert, back-alley reunion behind his wife's back.
- (00:11:45) How many actual friends do we have? Sofia breaks down the difference between the 50 people you'd grab a casual coffee with and the people you call in a crisis.
- (00:15:35) Can married men and women actually be platonic friends, or are we just setting up boundaries to avoid total chaos?
- (00:19:15) Albert explains why his ideal "bro-date" doesn't involve sitting in front of a TV at a bar for five hours, and why going deep right away scares other men off.
- (00:27:10) The nightmare of the "trauma dump" and why Sofia finally started asking for emotional consent before sharing heavy chisme.
- (00:33:15) Albert sets strict boundaries with a high school friend who only wants to hang out on his own terms and at his own schedule.
- (00:42:30) Sofia's Realization: The exact moment Sofia stops, corrects herself, and realizes her definition of friends might be too harsh: "Now that I'm thinking about it, I'm like, no, I have several friends who have, I think, accepted the weird parts about me."
- (00:50:00) Unintentional divides: Why hanging out with friends who don't have kids becomes a logistical nightmare of scheduling and lofty vacation plans.
- (00:53:00) Reddit Story 1: Is it selfish to expect your friends to care for you the exact way you care for them?
- (01:00:00) Reddit Story 2: A 24-year-old guy loses his mind over a female friend ghosting him, but we're pretty sure he's an unreliable narrator.
- (01:05:10) The passionate, short-lived saga of Albert's weird, conniving work clinger who asked him to falsify teaching hours and refused to leave his classroom.
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🎙️ ABOUT THE SHOW We’re Doing It is a weekly, lighthearted look at the beautiful chaos of long-term marriage, parenting, and navigating life together. Hosted by Sofia (spunky wife) and Albert (the old soul), we’re here to read Reddit stories, air our grievances, and remind you that we are all on the same boat. New episodes drop every Monday!
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