Jamie and Jeremy turn to the Confederation's thoughts on mated relationships in this episode, drawing upon their personal experience with relationships to put the fourth, fifth, and sixth density messages from our tradition in a human context. The Confederation tends to stress the importance of knowing oneself honestly, as this helps the seeker to be more open and vulnerable with their mate, yielding some of the most potent catalyst for growth people encounter in their incarnation. Through meditation we tap into the sacred nature of ourselves, the other self, and the resulting relationship-self, thereby expanding inner and outer inquiry into potentially every level of awareness. By mirroring in better or worse ways, the mate furnishes their partner a consistent subject upon which to focus their love, making their place in our lives a complex but utterly consequential aspect of the upward spiraling light.

1. Hatonn on how service works between mates (May 6, 1979)
2. Ra on unstudied, spontaneous, and honest response of entities toward experiences (Session 41, Question 19)
3. Q'uo on mirroring in relationships (August 29, 2001)
4. Latuii on justice and expectations within relationships (October 4, 1987)
5. Laitos on negotiating the open heart (May 4, 2024)

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Given the state of the world at the outset of 2026, Jamie and Jeremy discuss the Confederation's thoughts on the subject of despair. Laleema shares their view on the condition with regards to the mind, body, and spirit complexes, finding spiritual despair to be an absolutely necessary experience for the seeker. The task then becomes to work with our bodily and mental despair to transmute them into that of the spirit, where we can surrender our limitations of mind and body to the Creator and do Its will. The ideas of Søren Kierkegaard on despair are sprinkled in, and a Q'uo transcript from a few years sheds light on the operation of despair as part of a cycle in the life of love.

1. Laleema on despair (September 22, 2005)
2. Sickness Unto Death (Kierkegaard, A&D Press, 2008)
3. Q'uo on Empathy (First Channeling Intensive, Session 10: August 1, 2021)
4. Q'uo on Witnessing Planetary Sorrow (Sixth Channeling Intensive, Session 19: November 4, 2024)
5. Pluribus (Apple TV)
6. Reality (Kingsley, Catafalque Press, 2020)
7. Q'uo on the Cycle of Desire, Love, Despair, and Healing (First Channeling Intensive, Session 11: August 2, 2021)
8. Auxhall on Freedom and Direction (March 12, 2023)
9. All despair-related sessions on HARC (High Altitude Receiving Center)
10. Working Notes (Substack)

When asked about the disciplines of the personality, those of Ra responded with three directives: “One, know yourself. Two, accept yourself. Three, become the Creator.” What does it mean to know yourself? Which self? How much knowledge? What is this knowledge, its nature? Jamie and Jeremy discuss these questions in light of emotions, dreams, energy system blockages, desires, and the neverending search for the center of ourselves and other selves.

• Episode 17: The Discipline of the Personality (inaudible.show)
• Ra on the discipline of the personality (Session 74, Question 11)
• Q’uo on working with emotions (January 7, 2008)
• Ra’s balancing technique example (Session 46, Question 9)
• Hatonn on knowing the universe through the self (November 9, 1977)
• Ra on imagining infinity as a unity (Session 1, Question 7)
• Laitos on desire magnetizing the self (November 9, 1977)
• Episode 62: A Deep Dive Into the Archetypes, Part 3 (inaudible.show)
• Q’uo on “Who Am I?” (September 22, 2007)

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