In this episode, I break down something that’s been quietly controlling my results with women: my belief system.

For years, I believed I could improve in every area of life—fitness, career, coaching—but when it came to women, I had the opposite mindset. I thought I wasn’t good enough, that women were the prize, and that I had to earn their attention.

That belief shaped everything.

I talk through how those thoughts created a cycle of hesitation, overthinking, and lack of confidence—and how I’m starting to shift into a new mindset: seeing myself as the prize.

This isn’t theory—this is me realizing, in real time, how much my mindset has been affecting my outcomes.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything right but still struggling with women, this might be the missing piece.

After pushing myself to approach 20 women in one day, I set a new goal: 10 approaches spread out over a week to make it feel more natural.

In this episode, I break down what actually happened—where I succeeded, where I hesitated, and what I’m starting to learn about confidence, environment, and mindset. From yoga class to the gym to the dog park, I’m testing what it looks like to build real social momentum instead of forcing it all in one day.

This is what real progress looks like—imperfect, uncomfortable, but moving forward.

I set a goal to approach 20 women in one day—and actually followed through.

In this episode, I break down what happened from start to finish: the easy wins at the dog park, the awkward moments at the mall, and why the bookstore ended up being the best place to meet people. I talk about what worked, what didn’t, and the biggest mistake I made—cutting off a great interaction too early.

This wasn’t about getting numbers or being smooth. It was about getting reps, building comfort, and proving to myself that I can take action instead of overthinking.

If you’re trying to get better with women, this is what it actually looks like in real time—wins, losses, and everything in between.

In this episode, Zane breaks down a simple strategy that’s helping him finally get over his fear of approaching women: “approach and eject.”

Instead of trying to impress, get numbers, or avoid rejection, the goal is just to start conversations and leave—removing the pressure entirely.

Zane explains how this mindset shift is helping him build confidence, take action, and improve through repetition, along with real examples from the gym and everyday life.

This is about going back to basics, getting reps in, and learning how to be comfortable taking the first step.

In this follow-up episode, Zane breaks down what actually led to the moment he finally talked to his gym crush—and why that moment was bigger than it seemed.

He dives into a major mindset shift: letting go of the “nice guy” approach that kept him stuck for years and replacing it with a more confident, decisive way of thinking.

This episode is about unlearning old habits, challenging belief systems, and stepping into a version of yourself that isn’t afraid to take action.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything “right” but still not getting what you want, this is the episode where things start to change.

In this episode, Zane tells the story of the day he finally did something that had been intimidating him for months — talking to the most intimidating woman at his gym.

No smooth pickup lines. No big success story. Just a simple conversation and the realization that the fear was way bigger than the reality.

Zane breaks down what was going through his head before the approach, how he finally pushed himself to do it, and why sometimes the biggest victory is simply taking the first step.

If you’ve ever been afraid to approach someone you’re attracted to, this episode is about getting past that fear and just going for it.

In this episode, Zane reflects on two women who had a major impact on how he approaches dating and relationships.

One was a woman he believed was “destiny” — someone he fell for quickly, only to end up heartbroken and forced to rethink how he handles relationships. The other was a close friend who might have been a potential partner, but he never even considered dating her.

Looking back years later, Zane questions whether he actually learned from that painful experience… or if it simply made him more cautious and afraid to take risks.

This episode dives into themes of dating patterns, emotional availability, rejection, attachment styles, and the lessons we think we’ve learned from heartbreak.

If you’ve ever wondered whether past relationships helped you grow or quietly shaped your fears, this conversation will probably hit close to home.

Topics:

dating lessons • heartbreak • attachment styles • relationship patterns • emotional availability

In this episode, Zane talks about a dating pattern that caused him to end relationships too early and how it affected his chances of finding long-term love.

After reading the book How Not to Die Alone, he reflects on past relationships, dating apps, and how fear of uncertainty pushed him to walk away from connections before they had time to grow.

If you’ve ever wondered whether you let someone go too soon—or struggled with commitment in modern dating—this episode will resonate.

Modern dating • dating advice for men • attachment style • dating apps • relationships