Welcome to the first episode of Midnight Menopausal Meanderings, a new recurring series under the Notes From the Edge umbrella.

This series is where the polished masks come off. It’s part storytelling, part philosophy, part neuroscience, part marriage counseling you didn’t ask for, and occasionally… it starts with something as ridiculous as biscuits and gravy.

In this deeply personal solo episode of Notes From the Edge, Lisa Lacy explores what happens when two people in recovery, both neurodivergent creatives, both living with mental health challenges, try to build a life together while carrying very different histories.

This isn’t really about biscuits and gravy.

It’s about survival, menopause, addiction and recovery, love after trauma, a 16-year age gap, living with life-threatening illness and about the strange ways ordinary disagreements uncover extraordinary truths.

Sometimes the people we love most become our greatest teachers, not because they’re easy to live with, but because they illuminate the places where we still have healing to do.

This episode is a reminder that the real conversation is almost never the one we think we’re having.

Where ordinary moments become extraordinary conversations, and where healing often begins with asking a better question.

Welcome to the Edge.

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Why is it so hard to trust again after betrayal, even when you know the danger has passed?

In this episode of Notes From the Edge, Lisa Lacy explores the biology of betrayal and why healing is about so much more than “letting it go.”

Together, we’ll explore:
• Why trust is a biological prediction, not just an emotion
• What happens inside the brain and body after betrayal
• Why attachment and fear can exist at the same time
• How survival strategies become identities
• Why hypervigilance, people-pleasing, and emotional numbness are often adaptations rather than personality traits
• How trust can be rebuilt one safe experience at a time

If you’ve ever questioned yourself after infidelity, emotional abuse, manipulation, or repeated violations of trust, this conversation is for you.

You are not broken.

Your survival system has simply been trying protect you.

What did you perform in order to survive?

These are the conversations we should have been having all along.

Welcome to the Edge.

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What if healing isn’t about becoming someone new?

What if it’s about having the courage to finally tell yourself the truth?

In this episode of Notes From the Edge, Lisa Lacy sits down with counselor Teddy Engels for a thoughtful conversation about self-awareness, personal responsibility, and the questions that shape our lives. Together they explore what it means to know yourself without judgment, why curiosity is more powerful than certainty, and how genuine healing begins when we stop trying to be fixed and start becoming fully seen.

Rather than offering easy answers, this conversation invites listeners to ask better questions about who they are, what they’re carrying, and what they’re ready to release.

If you’ve ever wondered what real personal work looks like, this episode is an invitation to begin.

In this episode:
• What it really means to know yourself
• Why healing starts with curiosity instead of judgment
• The difference between being “fixed” and being understood
• What we should expect from therapy and from ourselves
• How honesty creates lasting transformation
• Lisa’s signature question: “What did you perform in order to survive?”

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Hosted by Lisa Lacy, writer, trauma educator, and executive advisor, Notes From the Edge explores trauma, identity, recovery, leadership, and the psychology of performing our lives.

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