Have you ever had a thought that quietly whispered:

“You’re not qualified.”
“You’re not good enough.”
“You missed your chance.”

Most people assume those thoughts are just part of normal self-doubt.

But what if they aren’t?

What if some of the most discouraging thoughts we wrestle with aren’t random at all—but carefully placed lies designed to keep us from stepping into the purpose God created us for?

In this episode of the Passages Podcast, Brittany and Eric explore what they call The Four Spiritual Lies—a pattern of deception that repeatedly appears in the lives of believers.

Scripture calls Satan “the accuser,” but his accusations rarely arrive as loud attacks. Instead, they appear as quiet thoughts that feel believable enough to derail our confidence, identity, and calling.

These lies don’t always show up all at once.

Often, the enemy simply tries one lie at a time.
And if one doesn’t work, he moves to the next.

Throughout this conversation, Brittany and Eric break down four common lies that quietly sabotage spiritual growth:

• You have no worth – The lie that your life has no intrinsic value or significance.
• You might matter, but not here – The idea that your purpose only exists in heaven, not in your life right now.
• Your past disqualified you – The accusation that your mistakes permanently define your identity.
• Force your way in – The deception that confuses ambition with calling and pushes people to act outside of God’s timing.

Drawing from Scripture and personal experience, Brittany and Eric unpack how these lies influence the way people see themselves, their purpose, and their relationship with God.

They also explore why deception is one of the enemy’s most effective strategies.

Often, he doesn’t need to destroy someone’s faith outright.

All he has to do is convince them that their life has no meaningful role in God’s kingdom.

Because if someone believes they have no value, they will never pursue their calling.

But Scripture tells a very different story.

Throughout the episode, Brittany shares powerful verses that speak directly against these lies, including reminders that we are:

• Fearfully and wonderfully made
• Created for good works
• Chosen and placed by God with purpose

Eric also explains why believers must learn to respond to accusations spiritually rather than emotionally, following the example Jesus gave in Matthew 4 when He responded to temptation with Scripture.

Instead of debating the enemy, Jesus simply spoke truth.

And that pattern still works today.

By the end of the episode, Brittany and Eric leave listeners with an important question:

Which of these lies has shaped the way you see yourself?

Because once you recognize the lie, you can replace it with truth.

And when truth takes root, identity begins to change.

If you’ve ever wrestled with doubts about your worth, your calling, or your past mistakes, this episode will help you recognize the spiritual battle happening beneath those thoughts.

Because the enemy’s goal is confusion.

But God’s goal is clarity.

And sometimes freedom begins with something as simple as recognizing the lie you’ve been believing.

Have you ever found yourself drawn to someone you knew was broken?

And somewhere deep down, you told yourself…
“Maybe I can love them into healing.”

You’re not alone.

In this episode of the Passages Podcast, Brittany and Eric unpack a powerful and often unspoken pattern in relationships—why some women are drawn to wounded men, and what’s really happening beneath the surface.

Because this isn’t just about attraction.

It’s about wounds, identity, and belief systems that quietly shape the relationships we choose.

As the conversation unfolds, Brittany and Eric introduce a framework that explains what’s happening internally in many men—and why it creates cycles that feel impossible to break:

The wound. The message. The vow.

A wound is formed—often rooted in a broken or absent father relationship.
A message is created—what the person begins to believe about themselves.
And a vow is made—an internal decision that shapes future behavior and relationships.

And without realizing it…
those patterns begin to repeat.

In this episode, Brittany and Eric explore:

• Why some women feel most needed when a man is most broken
• How father wounds shape identity, behavior, and relationships
• The difference between being attracted to strength vs. being drawn to dysfunction
• Why trying to “fix” someone often leads to emotional exhaustion
• How internal wounds create repeated relationship patterns with different people
• The hidden vows men make that affect trust, leadership, and emotional maturity
• Why external confidence can sometimes mask deep internal brokenness

They also address a hard but necessary truth:

You cannot heal someone who has not chosen to heal.

And sometimes what feels like love…
is actually a response to your own unhealed places.

This episode also dives into how these wounds develop in the first place—especially through the breakdown of the father-child relationship—and how that impacts everything from identity to decision-making to spiritual connection.

Because when a father is absent, distant, or harmful, it doesn’t just create pain…

It creates beliefs.

Beliefs like:
“I’m not valuable.”
“I have to earn love.”
“I can’t trust authority.”

And those beliefs don’t stay in childhood.
They follow people into adulthood… and into relationships.

But this conversation doesn’t stop at the problem.

It points to a solution.

Brittany and Eric walk through a biblical pathway to healing:

• Release – Let go of the offense and the emotional weight you’ve been carrying
• Receive – Accept God’s grace as a new source of identity and strength
• Resolve – Replace old vows with truth and choose a new direction forward

They also share practical steps to begin healing:

Identify the wound.
Name the message.
Recognize the vow.
Replace it with truth.
And seek wise, spiritual guidance.

Because healing isn’t automatic…
but it is available.

One of the most powerful takeaways from this episode is this:

The patterns in your relationships are not random.

They’re revealing something.

And when you’re willing to face the root…
you can finally break the cycle.

If you’ve ever asked yourself:

“Why do I keep attracting the same kind of person?”
“Why do I feel responsible for fixing others?”
“Why do my relationships feel like the same story with different faces?”

This episode will bring clarity, conviction, and hope.

Because your past may have shaped you…
but it does not have to define you.

And the very wound you’ve been hiding…
may be the doorway to your healing—and your purpose.

What actually makes someone ready for a relationship?

Is it chemistry?
Consistency?
Attraction?
Shared faith?

Or… is there a deeper standard that most people have never been taught?

In this episode of the Passages Podcast, Brittany and Eric explore a powerful pattern hidden in Genesis 2—revealing five foundational assignments God gave to Adam before Eve was ever introduced.

And what they uncover may completely reshape how you view relationships.

Because according to Scripture, a relationship doesn’t begin with feelings…
it begins with formation.

As Brittany and Eric walk through the passage step by step, they reveal that God established a clear order—one that prepares a man for relationship and gives a woman clarity on what to look for.

This isn’t about perfection.
It’s about alignment with God’s design.

In this episode, Brittany and Eric explore five key areas that define readiness for relationship:

• Presence – A man who actively dwells in the presence of God, not just casually acknowledges Him
• Work – A life marked by purpose, direction, and responsibility—not aimlessness
• Cultivation – The ability to draw out value, encourage growth, and build up what’s been entrusted to him
• Protection – Covering what he leads with strength, awareness, and care—emotionally, spiritually, and physically
• Receiving the Word – Hearing from God, applying truth, and living under spiritual authority and accountability

Throughout the conversation, Brittany and Eric challenge some of the most common misconceptions about relationships today.

Because loneliness doesn’t equal readiness.
Attraction doesn’t equal alignment.
And potential doesn’t equal preparation.

They also address a reality many women quietly wrestle with:

Trying to pull someone into spiritual maturity instead of recognizing whether they’re already rooted in it.

This episode offers clarity, not confusion.

It shifts the focus from “How do I find the right person?”
to “What does God say a ready person actually looks like?”

Brittany and Eric also unpack:

• Why many relationships feel exhausting from the start
• The danger of choosing based on emotion instead of discernment
• What it means to be “washed with the Word” in a real, everyday relationship
• Why protection without spiritual grounding can become harmful
• The importance of accountability and spiritual covering in a relationship
• How God’s design brings peace, clarity, and stability—not confusion

One of the most powerful truths in this conversation is simple, but confronting:

Just because someone wants a relationship…
doesn’t mean they’re ready for one.

And just because you feel lonely…
doesn’t mean it’s time.

Because God didn’t bring Eve to Adam until Adam was positioned, prepared, and aligned with his assignment.

If you’ve ever wondered:

“Am I choosing the right kind of person?”
“Why do relationships feel so hard or confusing?”
“How do I know if someone is truly ready?”

This episode will give you a biblical framework that brings both clarity and peace.

Because when relationships are built God’s way…
they don’t start in chaos.

They start in order.