Have you ever found yourself drawn to someone you knew was broken?
And somewhere deep down, you told yourself…
“Maybe I can love them into healing.”
You’re not alone.
In this episode of the Passages Podcast, Brittany and Eric unpack a powerful and often unspoken pattern in relationships—why some women are drawn to wounded men, and what’s really happening beneath the surface.
Because this isn’t just about attraction.
It’s about wounds, identity, and belief systems that quietly shape the relationships we choose.
As the conversation unfolds, Brittany and Eric introduce a framework that explains what’s happening internally in many men—and why it creates cycles that feel impossible to break:
The wound. The message. The vow.
A wound is formed—often rooted in a broken or absent father relationship.
A message is created—what the person begins to believe about themselves.
And a vow is made—an internal decision that shapes future behavior and relationships.
And without realizing it…
those patterns begin to repeat.
In this episode, Brittany and Eric explore:
• Why some women feel most needed when a man is most broken
• How father wounds shape identity, behavior, and relationships
• The difference between being attracted to strength vs. being drawn to dysfunction
• Why trying to “fix” someone often leads to emotional exhaustion
• How internal wounds create repeated relationship patterns with different people
• The hidden vows men make that affect trust, leadership, and emotional maturity
• Why external confidence can sometimes mask deep internal brokenness
They also address a hard but necessary truth:
You cannot heal someone who has not chosen to heal.
And sometimes what feels like love…
is actually a response to your own unhealed places.
This episode also dives into how these wounds develop in the first place—especially through the breakdown of the father-child relationship—and how that impacts everything from identity to decision-making to spiritual connection.
Because when a father is absent, distant, or harmful, it doesn’t just create pain…
It creates beliefs.
Beliefs like:
“I’m not valuable.”
“I have to earn love.”
“I can’t trust authority.”
And those beliefs don’t stay in childhood.
They follow people into adulthood… and into relationships.
But this conversation doesn’t stop at the problem.
It points to a solution.
Brittany and Eric walk through a biblical pathway to healing:
• Release – Let go of the offense and the emotional weight you’ve been carrying
• Receive – Accept God’s grace as a new source of identity and strength
• Resolve – Replace old vows with truth and choose a new direction forward
They also share practical steps to begin healing:
Identify the wound.
Name the message.
Recognize the vow.
Replace it with truth.
And seek wise, spiritual guidance.
Because healing isn’t automatic…
but it is available.
One of the most powerful takeaways from this episode is this:
The patterns in your relationships are not random.
They’re revealing something.
And when you’re willing to face the root…
you can finally break the cycle.
If you’ve ever asked yourself:
“Why do I keep attracting the same kind of person?”
“Why do I feel responsible for fixing others?”
“Why do my relationships feel like the same story with different faces?”
This episode will bring clarity, conviction, and hope.
Because your past may have shaped you…
but it does not have to define you.
And the very wound you’ve been hiding…
may be the doorway to your healing—and your purpose.