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  • Ep.70 Why Do I Feel Like I Don't Belong? The Achievement Addiction Nobody Names

    Ep.70 Why Do I Feel Like I Don't Belong? The Achievement Addiction Nobody Names
    2026/07/12
    Send us Fan MailIf you've done everything right, the career, the house, the kids, the smile, and you still feel like everyone else got invited to something you weren't, or someone else got the promotion, the pat on the back, this episode is for you.That quiet hum of not enough, not worthy, not included? That's not your anxiety. That's the wound underneath it. And it has been running the show since you were small.EPISODE SUMMARY You're building the business, raising the kids, showing up for everyone. And underneath all of it there is this energizer bunny that never actually stops running. Am I enough yet? Do I belong yet? Am I worthy yet?In this episode, Sari breaks down why the need to belong is a primal nervous system survival response, not a personality flaw, and why no amount of achievement, likes, applause, or acknowledgment from the outside will ever touch the love you actually need to give yourself. She shares her own story of growing up as a middle class Jewish girl in a wealthy community, earning her worth through dance performance, and how that wound followed her all the way into her business, her social media, and every room she walked into wondering if she was going to be included.She closes with a guided visualization to help you meet the little girl who first decided she had to earn her place, and tell her something she maybe never heard enough.WHAT YOU'LL LEARNWhy the constant doing, achieving, and performing is the symptom, not the root causeHow the fear of not belonging triggers your nervous system into survival modeWhere the "I have to earn my place" wound starts and why it never stays in childhoodWhy the most successful people you're comparing yourself to might just be performing better at the same woundThe real shift: from looking for external validation to belonging to yourself firstA simple pause to practice before you post, say yes, or push harder at workA guided visualization to meet the little girl who made the agreement and give her what she neededREFLECTION Where in your life are you still running the energizer bunny trying to earn your place?Before your next post, your next yes, your next push at work, can you pause and ask: am I doing this because it's true to me, or am I doing this to be seen?What would it mean to belong to yourself first?RESOURCES + WORK WITH ME You can understand this intellectually all day long and still feel that hum underneath everything. The subconscious belief that got wired in when you were small does not shift from one podcast episode. It shifts when you do the deeper work and find exactly where it lives in your body and your story.If you feel the pull to do that work, book a Freedom Roadmap session with Sari at thegrowthgoddess.net. Just a conversation about what this could look like for you. No pressure, just clarity.5 Minute Nervous System ResetAnd if the energizer bunny is running hard today and you need something right now, grab the free 5 Minute Nervous System Reset at thegrowthgoddess.net/reset. A tool you can come back to the moment you feel the hum getting loud. You're not broken. You're not behind. And you're not alone.TIMESTAMPS00:02 Welcome back, anxiety as the messenger, and why subconscious work is the key02:29 The quiet hum underneath all the doing: am I enough yet, do I belong yet, am I worthy yet03:19 Why we are anxious when we look like we have it all04:03 You've done everything right and something still does not feel fulfilled04:24 The tribe metaphor and comparing yourself to people who look like they cracked the code05:30 Sari's personal story: growing up as a dancer, a middle class Jewish girl, earning validation through performance06:25 How conditional validation rewires the subconscious and when it starts08:57 When acknowledgment becomes identity and why it does not stay in the studio09:30 The wound follows you everywhere: the hair business, the house, refreshing the likes11:11 Why you cannot rest because resting feels like not earning your place11:39 Real freedom is not chasing belonging from the outside12:31 No amount of likes, revenue, or applause will touch the love you need to give yourself12:43 Do I love myself enough to belong to myself first13:11 The invitation to the tribe is not external, it is from yourself14:17 This is not a concept, it is a moment by moment practice14:28 Catching the thought and asking who you are earning love from15:20 The pause before you post, say yes, or push harder15:43 No judgment, just honest awareness and a choice16:41 Guided visualization begins19:08 Telling her what she maybe never heard enough19:51 You already do belong. You always did.20:13 Coming back to the body, you get to choose yourself now21:41 One on one work and the discovery call invitation5 minute nervous system reset ad for midroll
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  • Ep.69 Why I Used to Wake Up in a Full Panic Every Morning

    Ep.69 Why I Used to Wake Up in a Full Panic Every Morning
    2026/07/05
    Send us Fan MailIf you wake up already scanning your body for what's wrong, already bracing before your feet hit the floor, this episode is for you. You are not crazy and you are not broken. Your body has just been trying to talk to you, and somewhere along the way you stopped listening, not your fault, this has become a learned habit.EPISODE SUMMARY For years Sari felt like the victim of her own anxiety. Like it had a hold on her and she was just along for the ride, waiting for the next panic attack, predicting her whole life around it. If you've been diagnosed with a medical condition and you're left wondering why your body keeps reacting, new things are showing up, or if tension and restlessness have become so normal you don't even notice them anymore, this episode breaks down the WHY.Sari walks through why the body speaks first, always, before the mind ever creates a single anxious thought. She unpacks the feeling and thinking loop that turns one heart palpitation into a full blown spiral, why chronic anxiety reprograms your nervous system to expect chaos, and the real difference between being a victim of anxiety and learning to work with it. She closes with a guided body scan to help you start asking your body what it's actually been trying to tell you.WHAT YOU'LL LEARNWhy anxiety can feel like your own body is turning against youHow chronic stress and a dysregulated nervous system are connected to diagnosesWhy your body sends the signal first, before your mind ever creates the anxious thoughtThe feeling and thinking loop that turns one small sensation into a full spiralWhy tension and restlessness start to feel "normal" the longer you live in survival modeThe real difference between being a victim of anxiety and choosing to work with it, listen to what it's trying to tell youA simple way to start listening to your body instead of bracing against itREFLECTION What has become so normal in your body, the tension, the restlessness, the bracing, that you don't even notice it anymore? If your body could talk right now, what would it say? Are you living as the victim of your anxiety, or are you ready to start working with it?RESOURCES + WORK WITH ME This is exactly the work Sari does with her clients in one on one sessions. Not a general meditation, but going in together to what your body is specifically holding, what it's been trying to say, what got shoved down so long it just became background noise.If anxiety feels like it has a hold on you right now, start with the Free 5 Minute Nervous System Reset. Something that actually helps in the moment, before the spiral takes over.And if you're ready to stop being the victim and get curious about what your body has been trying to tell you, book a Freedom Roadmap session with Sari. It's less of a discovery call and more of a curiosity call. No pressure, just clarity. You're not broken. You're not behind. And you're not alone.TIMESTAMPS00:01 Welcome back, where Sari's episode ideas come from, and the idea of being a victim of anxiety00:01 Sari's husband's early shift and the adrenaline that hit her just from him saying goodbye02:31 Anxiety as a messenger, and how symptoms can feel like the body turning on you05:01 Living in chronic anxiety until it starts to feel normal06:59 Victim of anxiety versus working with it, and the energy of curiosity versus control08:44 The body speaks first, always, before the mind creates the panic11:08 "The mind doesn't create anxiety. It reacts to what the body is already feeling."13:06 The feeling and thinking loop, and how one palpitation spirals into a full panic14:18 The Body Keeps the Score, and how dysregulation starts to feel like a normal Tuesday16:18 Why it's so hard to hear the whisper when chaos is all you've ever known16:37 Taking inventory of what's become normal, and why Sari uses hypnosis17:32 Why meditation and hypnosis aren't about emptying the mind, they're about creating space to hear what's already there19:28 Not knowing what joy or love even felt like, and imagining freedom from anxiety20:49 Meditation and hypnosis as a phone call with your body22:22 A guided body scan, noticing tension without judgment23:14 The beginning of working with your anxiety instead of fighting it24:07 Asking your body what it's trying to tell you and what it's ready to let go of25:25 The curiosity call invitation and closing5 minute nervous system reset ad for midroll
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  • Ep.68 How to Let Go of Anxiety In The Body

    Ep.68 How to Let Go of Anxiety In The Body
    2026/06/28

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    If you've been to all the doctors, tried all the things, and your anxiety still won't budge, this one is for you. Maybe the reason nothing has worked is that you've been trying to think your way out of something, but maybe it's not a thinking solution, maybe your body has been holding on to something the whole time, and you need to heal through the body.

    About This Episode

    I sat down with Jenny Cohen, an author, a speaker, a cancer survivor, and a dancer who believes movement is your birthright to heal. She used dance to stay alive through her cancer treatment, and what she shares in this episode is something I have lived in my own body for years.

    Anxiety is not just in your head. It lives in your body. And when you have nowhere to put that energy, it doesn't disappear. It builds.

    We talk about why your anxiety is the messenger, not the enemy. We get into why your body will go to extremes to get your attention, the difference between your conscious mind and your subconscious mind, head up versus head down, and what's actually happening when emotion releases as crying, shaking, or going completely still. Jenny also shares the dead simple daily practice that helped her, and the one question she asks her body the second symptoms show up.

    If you're a high functioning woman holding it all together while quietly crumbling, this is your permission slip to stop performing and start letting it move.


    What You'll Learn

    1. Why your anxiety can get worse the moment you stop moving your body
    2. Why anxiety is the messenger, and how the more you ignore the whispers, the louder your body has to get
    3. How your conscious mind and subconscious mind split, head up versus head down, and why it matters for healing
    4. What emotional release actually looks like, and what to do when it happens
    5. A simple daily movement practice you can start with no skill and no one watching
    6. The one question Jenny asks her body when symptoms show up

    Reflection

    Where in your life have you stopped moving, and what might be trying to get your attention?

    When was the last time you let your body do something just because it felt good, with no goal attached?

    Your Next Step

    If your anxiety feels stuck in your body and you need something that actually helps tonight, start here.

    Grab the free 5 Minute Nervous System Reset

    And if you're ready to stop managing your anxiety and start getting to the root of it, this is where one on one work comes in. That is where we rewrite the subconscious patterns underneath, not just talk about them.

    Book your free Freedom Roadmap session

    You're not broken.
    You're not behind.
    And you're not alone.


    Timestamps

    00:00 Welcome and meet Jenny Cohen
    01:43 When movement as a birthright to heal first came online for Jenny
    03:07 From dance to occupational therapy
    05:31 How dance kept Jenny alive through cancer treatment
    06:15 What was driving the anxiety underneath
    07:46 Overlapping conditions, depression, and unresolved trauma
    09:25 Dancing before, during, and after breast cancer treatment
    11:01 Sari shares how her own anxiety didn't show up until she stopped dancing
    12:26 Movement is for everybody, even after your shower
    13:23 Why our life force requires movement
    15:18 Why our bodies will go to extremes to give us what we want
    16:19 Why anxiety is the messenger, not the enemy
    18:30 Fixed movement versus improvisation
    22:21 The moment emotion released mid movement
    23:20 Why you never touch someone who is emotionally processing
    25:18 Conscious mind from the head up, subconscious from the head down
    30:55 Why forgiveness is part of healing
    36:53 You have the right to move, you were born with it
    37:51 The daily practice, five random songs
    39:19 Naming three things you liked about what you did
    44:26 The question Jenny asks her body when symptoms show up
    46:40 Sari's movement challenge
    48:32 Are you doing your self care in a present way
    49:49 Where to find Jenny Cohen

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  • Ep.67 Why Do I Feel Emotionally Numb? The Subconscious Program Inside

    Ep.67 Why Do I Feel Emotionally Numb? The Subconscious Program Inside
    2026/06/21

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    Are you feeling emotionally numb and you don't know why? Are you doing all the right things, and feel exhausted? This episode is for you. You're not falling apart. You're not in crisis, but just going through the motions and feeling nothing. That is a subconscious program running the show, and that's not a I need to be doing more problem. And if you're a mom, there's a good chance your kids are running a version of all of this too.


    EPISODE SUMMARY: Sari opens with a real life recent story, coming home exhausted, being reactive with her oldest daughter, and the conversation the next morning that changed everything.

    Her daughter was doing all the things. Good grades, chores, helping out. And she still was feeling unloved. She believed her younger sister was loved more, because she saw that her sister didn't have to earn it.

    Sound familiar?


    In this episode, Sari unpacks the subconscious agreement that so many high-functioning, anxious women are looking through life without realizing it: if I do more, I'll be loved more. She breaks down how this belief was formed in early childhood, why it keeps running on autopilot no matter how much you accomplish, and why 95% of your daily thoughts are recycling the same quiet story you made up about yourself when you were small.


    She also speaks directly to moms: your children often mirror the subconscious program you modeled during their earliest years. Learning to see the agreement in them, and ask the right question instead of reacting to the behavior, is one of the most powerful things you can do for yourself and for them.


    She closes with a guided breathing and visualization exercise to help you meet the younger version of yourself who first made that agreement — and begin to choose something different.

    This is not about doing more. It is about finally seeing the lens you have been looking through.


    WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:

    • Why you feel emotionally numb even when you're doing everything right — and the subconscious program driving it
    • What the agreement or belief you're looking through life actually is — and how to identify yours
    • How subconscious programs get formed between birth and age eight and why they keep running without you knowing
    • Why your children often mirror the agreements you modeled during your most anxious years — and how witnessing theirs can heal both of you
    • The difference between conditional love (earned) and unconditional love (already yours)
    • Why self awareness is the first crack of light — and why it is not enough on its own
    • Why hypnosis and subconscious work reaches what conscious effort and surface-level tools cannot
    • A simple breathing and visualization practice to meet the younger version of yourself who made the agreement


    REFLECTION:

    1. What is the agreement or belief you are looking through life right now? What lens are you seeing everything through?
    2. When did that agreement start? How old was the version of you who made it?
    3. If you replaced that lens with unconditional love, how would you move through your day differently?
    4. For the moms: what subconscious belief might you be watching play out in your child that you recognize from your own story?


    If anxiety feels like a constant hum of "not enough no matter what I do,"

    Grab the free 5-Minute Nervous System Reset.

    It's a tool to bring you back to yourself when the autopilot takes over.


    And if you're ready to stop collecting insights and actually feel the shift in your body.

    Book a Free Freedom Roadmap Session

    It's just a conversation. No pressure.

    You're not broken. You're not behind. And you're not alone. If you made it here, that means something.

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  • Ep.66 Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn: What's Your Survival Response?

    Ep.66 Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn: What's Your Survival Response?
    2026/06/14

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    If you've got so much on your plate that part of you secretly wants to burn it all down and quit everything, this episode is for you. You're not falling apart. Your anxiety just found a new way to talk to you. And once you learn the language, you get your power back.

    EPISODE SUMMARY This week Sari shares a real time story of anxiety showing up in a way she'd never felt before. After years of chronic panic attacks, she thought she knew her pattern, the fight response. Then she overcommitted herself into the ground, PTA, a leadership role, clients, the podcast, managing mom life and hit a wall where the only answer her body could find was quit it all.

    In this episode she breaks down the four survival responses, fight, flight, freeze, and fawn, and how anxiety presents differently depending on which one is running. She talks about why high functioning women keep filling the void, where control sneaks in, and why honoring your no is the most regulating thing you can do for your nervous system. Anxiety is the messenger. This is how you start listening before it becomes a Mack truck.

    WHAT YOU'LL LEARN

    • Why your anxiety can show up completely differently than it used to, even years into healing
    • The four survival responses (fight, flight, freeze, fawn) and how to spot which one is yours
    • Why high functioning women overcommit, and the real question underneath the busyness
    • How control shows up when you believe you have to carry everything alone
    • Why awareness alone doesn't change you, but choice does
    • How honoring your no actually settles your nervous system
    • What happens in the subconscious mind when we sit down and have a conversation with the pattern instead of fighting it

    REFLECTION When your anxiety gets loud, which response do you reach for first, fight, flight, freeze, or fawn? And what would change if you treated it as a messenger instead of an enemy?

    Free 5 Minute Nervous System Reset If your nervous system feels strung out and you need something that actually helps right now, grab the Free 5 Minute Nervous System Reset. Something you can use tonight.

    And if you're ready to stop white knuckling your way through and have someone help you talk to the pattern underneath it all, book a Freedom Roadmap Session. This is the work that gives you freedom from the very thing keeping you stuck.

    You're not broken. You're not behind. And you're not alone. If you made it here, that means something.

    TIMESTAMPS

    00:02 Welcome in, and why anxiety shows up in so many different ways

    02:24 The real question underneath overcommitting: what void are you trying to fill

    04:47 Carrying it all alone, and where control actually comes from

    07:10 The week it all caught up: Warrior Women, the missed episode, freeze and flight

    09:35 The four survival responses explained: fight, flight, freeze, fawn

    11:14 When the answer becomes "I quit everything, burn it all down"

    12:47 Sitting in your emotions, and anxiety as the messenger

    15:03 Your power and your choice: how long do you actually need to feel it

    17:31 Giving yourself space, and why the coaching call landed so differently

    19:52 Honoring your no, the Oracle card, and finding your own pattern

    22:00 Hypnosis: having a real conversation with the program that's been protecting you

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  • Ep.65 Perfectionism is Just Anxiety | Calm Your Nervous System with Hypnosis

    Ep.65 Perfectionism is Just Anxiety | Calm Your Nervous System with Hypnosis
    2026/06/07

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    If you wake up every morning already knowing how the day is going to go, bracing for the same feelings, the same version of you, the same feeling as the day before, this episode is for you. You haven't run out of options. You've run out of permission slips. And that's exactly what we're talking about today.

    EPISODE SUMMARY: What if the thing keeping your anxiety alive isn't your schedule, your relationships, or your past — it's the version of perfect you've been quietly chasing since someone else decided what that meant?

    In this episode, Sari shares what an unexpected movie day with her daughter taught her about optimism, worthiness, and how deeply we shrink ourselves to fit into someone else's idea of who we're supposed to be.

    She gets real about waking up as the anxious version of herself: the one who started bracing for the next panic attack before her feet even hit the floor. She talks about what it looks like to break that pattern, not with a 10-step routine, but with 1% of willingness to do something different.

    If your anxiety is wrapped up in perfectionism, needing approval, or a quiet belief that the way you are just isn't quite right.... this one will open something up for you.

    WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:

    • Why waking up expecting the same day keeps you locked in anxious patterns
    • How perfectionism and anxiety are more connected than you think
    • What your need for control is actually trying to protect you from
    • Why your uniqueness isn't the problem, it might be the exact thing that sets you free
    • Whose rules of "perfect" you've actually been following (and where they really came from)
    • The 1% shift that can start changing everything — starting tomorrow morning

    TIMESTAMPS:

    00:02 — Sari opens: being human and using her tools every single day

    01:27 — Letting her youngest take a mental health day; the STAAR test; being in her luteal phase

    03:54 — The UglyDolls movie story begins; why she said no to it years ago

    06:19 — Waking up expecting the same anxious day; bracing for panic attacks before getting out of bed

    07:18 — The optimist UglyDoll character; being a pessimist from anxiety and stagnation

    09:20 — Judging by the outer layer; how control showed up in a simple parenting moment

    11:57 — Reflection: how did you wake up this morning?

    12:48 — You get to decide right now; shaking up your morning

    15:16 — Are you willing to stand up and do something different?

    15:26 — Worthiness of a new experience; the perfect doll vs. the ugly doll

    17:50 — How anxiety shows up when you feel like you don't fit in; birthday suit metaphor

    19:54 — Stop being ashamed of how you look

    20:13 — Question what perfect even means

    20:18 — Changing your idea of perfect = a permission slip to be yourself

    21:43 — The insecurities behind the people who built these standards

    22:15 — Finding real freedom by letting go of what other people think

    23:51 — How perfectionism kills your ability to have fun; the painting class story

    25:15 — Your uniqueness is what makes you shine

    REFLECTION QUESTIONS:

    • Where in your life are you waking up expecting the same thing — and quietly believing you're not worthy of something different?
    • Whose definition of perfect have you been carrying around that was never yours to begin with?
    • What would it look like to give yourself a 1% permission slip today?

    5 Minute Nervous System Reset

    And if today's episode hit and you just need something that helps right now, grab the free 5-Minute Nervous System Reset. [https://thegrowthgoddess.net/free-meditation]

    You're not broken.
    You're not behind.
    And you're not alone.
    If you made it here, that means something.


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  • Ep.64 Why Has Nothing Worked for My Anxiety? A Client Shares What Finally Got to the Root

    Ep.64 Why Has Nothing Worked for My Anxiety? A Client Shares What Finally Got to the Root
    2026/05/31
    Send us Fan Mail If you've tried the medications, the doctors, the counselors, and nothing is changing in your life, this episode is for you. Jen had tried it all too. And then she found what was actually underneath it, no more playing with symptoms and band aids.EPISODE SUMMARY:Jen Auchter is a functional medicine doctor. She knows all the science. She was doing all the "right" things. And she was still circling in high functioning anxiety she couldn't touch.Her health, her business, her relationships. Everything felt connected to one root cause she just couldn't reach. Doctors treated symptoms. Counselors talked in circles. Nothing was getting to the subconscious patterns that were running the show, and she knew something needed to change, she had the knowledge, but needed the how.In this episode, Jen shares what happened when she finally said yes to hypnotherapy and what shifted in her body, her nervous system, her hormones, and her life over eight weeks of working together.This is a real conversation with a real woman who came in ready to put in the work, went deep into her subconscious mind, reconnected with her inner child, and came out the other side breathing easier. Literally.If you've been wondering what hypnotherapy actually looks like, what holistic/alternative healing really means in the body, and whether any of it could work for you, this is the episode.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:Why talk therapy often misses the root cause of anxiety and subconscious patternsWhat hypnosis actually feels like from the inside (from someone who was scared of losing control)How the subconscious mind gets built in childhood and why that matters for healing nowWhat inner child work actually does in the bodyWhy your physical symptoms like hormones, gut health, irregular cycles, and inflammation are connected to your fight or flight response and thought loopsWhat it means to stop being responsible for everyone else's feelings (and why that is a massive anxiety pattern)Why holistic healing and nervous system regulation actually show up in your physical bodyWhy healing is not about becoming someone new. It's about peeling back to who you actually are.TIMESTAMPS:00:52 — Jen shares why she started looking for alternative healing options in 2025 01:55 — What drew Jen to hypnotherapy and how she stopped overthinking the decision 03:44 — Sari reflects on witnessing Jen's growth 04:20 — What Jen thought the subconscious mind was before they started 06:35 — Jen describes hypnosis as a deep, personalized meditation (not what you think) 07:42 — Why Sari builds trust before going deep and what happens if you skip that step 08:38 — The inner child session: what it felt like and why it changed everything 11:43 — How hypnotherapy compares to traditional talk therapy 13:22 — The combination of conscious work and subconscious work 13:53 — The Panther meditation: reclaiming power you didn't know you gave away 17:22 — How personalized hypnosis makes meditation possible for people who "can't meditate" 19:00 — What to do when your mind wanders during a session 22:55 — Knowing you are the problem and not knowing how to change it 25:13 — How people in Jen's life noticed the shift before she did 26:38 The guilt and resentment loop: what Jen worked through and where she is now 29:18 — What it means to stop being a chameleon and start choosing for yourself 30:11 — Miracles happen when you stop pretending to be someone else 33:02 — What the mind does when we replay fake anxious scenarios on loop (and how that affects your health) 35:50 — Jen as a functional doctor on how thoughts directly affect hormones and physical health36:56 — The parasympathetic state and what rest and repair actually does for your body 38:50 — The physical results: gut health, hormones, cycles, breathing 39:47 — Why giving yourself 20 minutes gives you so much more time back 42:21 — What Jen wants you to know if you are on the fence 43:20 — Sari on the ripple effect of doing this work REFLECTION:What in your life right now feels like it is all pointing back to one root cause you cannot quite name?When did you last ask yourself what she actually needs, not what everyone around you needs?If you stopped feeling out of control tomorrow, what would change first?FREE NERVOUS SYSTEM RESET: If anxiety feels like it is running your day and you need anxiety relief right now, download the free 5-Minute Nervous System Reset to start giving your body what it has been asking for. Link in show notes: https://thegrowthgoddess.net/free-meditationWORK WITH SARI: If you are ready to stop living in anxiety and want to finally get to the root of it through hypnotherapy and subconscious work, you can book a free discovery call. Link in show notes: https://link.thegrowthgoddess.net/widget/bookings/freedomroadmapsession5 minute nervous system reset ad for midroll
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  • Ep.63 The Real Reason the Breathing "Isn't Working" for Your Anxiety

    Ep.63 The Real Reason the Breathing "Isn't Working" for Your Anxiety
    2026/05/24

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    If you've ever known exactly what to do for your anxiety and still couldn't make yourself do it... this one's going to hit. Because it's not about lacking the knowledge. It never was.

    EPISODE SUMMARY You've read the books. You've done the research. You know breathing helps. You know mindfulness is good for you. And yet — when the anxiety actually hits, you check out, go through the motions, and end up right back where you started.

    In this episode, Sari gets real about why knowing isn't enough. The anxious programs running in the background are designed to keep you safe — which means they are also designed to keep you exactly the same. The safety bubble feels comfortable. But it's a trap.

    She breaks down what actually has to happen in the moment anxiety shows up: the choice, the presence, the willingness to sit in the fire for two minutes without giving up. She talks about your nervous system, the vagus nerve, and why slowing down isn't "doing nothing" — it's the whole point. And she calls out the sneaky way we seek validation for staying stuck instead of asking what's working.

    This is a fired-up episode. And if you're someone who knows more than you're doing, it was made for you.

    WHAT YOU'LL LEARN

    • Why knowing what to do isn't enough to change your anxiety
    • How your safety bubble keeps you stuck in the same patterns every day
    • What it actually means to be present during a breathing exercise
    • Why seeking validation from others can reinforce the anxious identity
    • How the vagus nerve connects to your heart — and why that changes everything
    • What choosing a new identity looks like in a real, 2-minute moment
    • Why sitting in the fire isn't painful — it's just unfamiliar

    REFLECTION

    • What behavior or tool do you keep abandoning before giving it a real chance?
    • Are you looking for someone to tell you it's not working — or are you looking for what actually is?
    • When anxiety comes online today, what would it look like to stay in the room with it instead of checking out?

    FREE NERVOUS SYSTEM RESET

    If anxiety has you checked out before you even start, download the free 5-Minute Nervous System Reset to help your body slow down in real time. https://thegrowthgoddess.net/free-meditation

    WORK WITH SARI

    Ready to stop doing the same thing every day and expecting something different? Book a free Freedom Roadmap Session and let's map out what it actually looks like to change. https://link.thegrowthgoddess.net/widget/bookings/freedomroadmapsession

    You're not broken. You're not behind. And you're not alone. If you made it here, that means something.

    Time Stamps

    00:00 — Why Sari is fired up today

    02:07 — The client who has all the knowledge but can't put it into motion

    03:29 — How the anxious safety bubble keeps you doing the same thing on repeat

    05:51 — Why breathing "doesn't work" (and what's actually happening when you try)

    08:18 — Sitting in the fire: why discomfort is part of the process

    10:38 — The hair salon story and how we seek validation to stay stuck

    12:42 — Fight or flight, the amygdala, and why you can't think your way out of anxiety

    15:09 — The vagus nerve: why your heart is leading more than your brain

    17:17 — The first step: just admitting it

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